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A coworker gave me a religious baby book today.

So, I'm a pretty vocal atheist. My coworkers all know I have no religious beliefs. We have good discussion as we have a variety of religions, plus some agnostic & atheists in the group.

Today, for a baby present, I recieved a religious parenting book from one of the women. Along with a conversation about the importance of having Jesus in the baby's life.

I found it humorous more than anything, but a few of my colleagues found it quite rude. What sayeth, PCE? 

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Re: A coworker gave me a religious baby book today.

  • If she knows you're athiest, it's a little rude. I'm sure in her head she's trying to help, but it's still rude.

    Can you return it to the store and exchange it for racy Mad Libs?

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  • Just as rude as it would have been for you to give her a book about atheist child-rearing, accompanied by a lecture on how important it is to spare your children from religion.
  • Of course it's rude.

  • Is she a not-so-bright coworker? She could have just grabbed a book and not realized. I say save it for regifting to someone else if you can't return it.
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  • imageringstrue:
    Is she a not-so-bright coworker? She could have just grabbed a book and not realized. I say save it for regifting to someone else if you can't return it.

    She definitely knows I'm an atheist. Of that I have NO doubt.

    She had the book personalized & signed to DH & I from the author.

    It came with a discussion (lecture) from her on the importance of Jesus in the baby's life.

    It wasn't an "honest" mistake.

    I do find it humourous, largely because I know she is doing what she honestly believes is right for me and my family. Its important for her to spread the word. Unfortunately for her, she won't get anywhere. 

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  • I think it's rude. Even if you weren't an atheist and were Jewish or Muslim, it'd still be rude to talk about the importance of having Jesus in YOUR baby's life.
  • I think the discussion/lecture is more rude than the actual book.  
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  • On a slightly related note, you guys gotta see this post!!!

    Its 3rd tri, the bible, spelling errors and belly pics all in one! 

    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64596571.aspx 

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    I think the discussion/lecture is more rude than the actual book.  

    Yeah, I could almost see the book as a resource  this women loved having as a new mom, not even thinking about the religious aspects or something. But when paired with the lecture? Obviously intentional and super rude.

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    imageringstrue:
    Is she a not-so-bright coworker? She could have just grabbed a book and not realized. I say save it for regifting to someone else if you can't return it.

    She definitely knows I'm an atheist. Of that I have NO doubt.

    She had the book personalized & signed to DH & I from the author.

    It came with a discussion (lecture) from her on the importance of Jesus in the baby's life.

    It wasn't an "honest" mistake.

    I do find it humourous, largely because I know she is doing what she honestly believes is right for me and my family. Its important for her to spread the word. Unfortunately for her, she won't get anywhere. 

    I think it's great that you can see the humor in the situation. A lot of people wouldn't be so good natured about such a bold move. 

    I am serious...and don't call me Shirley.
  • Waaaaat?!?! Um, that's something I'd almost tell HR about -the lecture, I mean.
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  • As someone who usually eye-rolls at your posts about being atheist, I think it was damn rude.
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  • Fcuking eww. I'm glad you find it funny, but it's seriously rude. I wouldn't have accepted that gift.
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  • It's rude if you cut someone off in traffic.  It's absolutely obnoxious if you give a coworker a book and lecture on what religion they should be raising their child.  I'd feel the same way if an atheist did that to a Christian.


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  • imageLaurierGirl28:

    On a slightly related note, you guys gotta see this post!!!

    Its 3rd tri, the bible, spelling errors and belly pics all in one! 

    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64596571.aspx 

    Palm 139 is so inspiring, lol 

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  • imageLaurierGirl28:

    On a slightly related note, you guys gotta see this post!!!

    Its 3rd tri, the bible, spelling errors and belly pics all in one! 

    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64596571.aspx 

    "Palms"?  Hmmm, I'm not familiar with that section...


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  • I'd be livid.  Crazy, tunnel-vision livid.  That kind of thing pisses me off to no end.
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    imageLaurierGirl28:

    imageringstrue:
    Is she a not-so-bright coworker? She could have just grabbed a book and not realized. I say save it for regifting to someone else if you can't return it.

    She definitely knows I'm an atheist. Of that I have NO doubt.

    She had the book personalized & signed to DH & I from the author.

    It came with a discussion (lecture) from her on the importance of Jesus in the baby's life.

    It wasn't an "honest" mistake.

    I do find it humourous, largely because I know she is doing what she honestly believes is right for me and my family. Its important for her to spread the word. Unfortunately for her, she won't get anywhere. 

    I think it's great that you can see the humor in the situation. A lot of people wouldn't be so good natured about such a bold move. 

    Agreed.  I know I would have been less than pleased!

  • Definitely rude.

    And reminds me of something my mom would do. I'm terrified that if we have children, she'll baptise them. 

  • imageLaurierGirl28:

    On a slightly related note, you guys gotta see this post!!!

    Its 3rd tri, the bible, spelling errors and belly pics all in one!

    http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64596571.aspx

    Beign?  Palms?

    Oh, Geez.


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    Definitely rude.

    And reminds me of something my mom would do. I'm terrified that if we have children, she'll baptise them. 

    I'm a wee bit concerned that BOTH my parents AND Dh's parents might try to baptize. And if they don't, they will most certainly hassle us about it to no end. Particularly considering that DH's father is getting baptized himself in a few weeks and joining the Catholic church (I know 2V is smiling at this!!)

    Clearly, I have no interest in baptizing. DH was raised catholic, considers himself more agnostic now, but he is moderately religious. I did tell him that if baptism was important to him, we could certainly consider it, but that he'd have to be more active in the church if its THAT Important to him. He decided football Sunday is more important.  

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  • Very rude. 

     

    And what book was it?

    **crosses fingers and hopes it was To Train Up a Child and that your heathen spawn will be Duggar-ready in no time** 

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  • You could complain, but then that would be "war against religion" plusandalso make you a hateful person.
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    imageStrawberryBlondie:

    Definitely rude.

    And reminds me of something my mom would do. I'm terrified that if we have children, she'll baptise them. 

    I'm a wee bit concerned that BOTH my parents AND Dh's parents might try to baptize. And if they don't, they will most certainly hassle us about it to no end. Particularly considering that DH's father is getting baptized himself in a few weeks and joining the Catholic church (I know 2V is smiling at this!!)

    Clearly, I have no interest in baptizing. DH was raised catholic, considers himself more agnostic now, but he is moderately religious. I did tell him that if baptism was important to him, we could certainly consider it, but that he'd have to be more active in the church if its THAT Important to him. He decided football Sunday is more important.  

    We were worried enough about IL's trying this to look into it a bit.  Protestant churches may be different, but canon law absolutely prohibits the baptism of any child who there won't be a reasonable expectation/attempt to raise Catholic unless there is an imminent threat of death.  There aren't going to be many priests who will agree to it.

    As far as hassling you, I'd point out that baptism is no guarantee of eternal salvation, and baptized Catholics are held to a higher standard as far as sin (in other words, they'd be setting your not-going-to-be-raised-Catholic kid up to be an apostate, which is a grave sin).  They should also watch their own sins:  Council of Trent, it's a no-no to say that baptism alone does anything.

    My IL's ended up backing off when DH laid this out for them.  We're aware of what they believe, they're aware of what we believe, and we all respect that and move on.


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