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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Non-clicky sexy time poll
In my new relationship with D, I've discovered that he is VERY communicative before, during, and after any sexual activity about what we both like/want/need. The stbxh DEFINITELY wasn't like this, but the long-term bf before him very much was (long-term bf and I both went to Antioch College and are the product of the SOPP), so it's interesting / nice to get back to a place where talking about sex seems "normal."
Anyway, on to the "poll" part:
How communicative is your partner about his/her sexual wants/needs/desires? How communicative are you about yours? Does your partner seem validly interested in your sexual wants/needs/desires?
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Re: Non-clicky sexy time poll
How communicative is your partner about his/her sexual wants/needs/desires? Very. I love how he tells me what he would like and how.
How communicative are you about yours? Very, I tell him what I like. He says he loves the positive feedback. It has always been more than positive with him.
Does your partner seem validly interested in your sexual wants/needs/desires? Yes, he is very interested in my wants and desires as I am with his. It is a nice balance. We also talk about sex outside of the bedroom. What we liked, what we might like and so on. It is very nice to be open. This is the first time I have had no reservations and openly trusted. It has been great. I do not think I could ever go back to being with someone who I hoped would touch the right spot but I was afraid to tell them where it was.
I am not in a relationship right now, but my most recent ex and I communicated well.
We would lead each other during activity, ask for things before starting or talk after. We were very respectful and had a very nice sex life.
In the past I was not as comfortable speaking up. I would suggest positions, but not really flat out ask for what I want.
Communication about sex is very important to me because I was so unsatisfied in my marriage. I can't believe I married someone who refused to do certain things!
If I'm going to engage in a sexual relationship, it's important for us to be open and honest about things (from birth control to STDs and wants and likes in bed).
There, there, DDD. There, there.
Will one of these
make it up to you? Or maybe one of these 
?
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Too bad they don't have a vibrator icon.
That should do it.
I am not in a relationship right now, but this was a huge issue for me with my STBX
How communicative is your partner about his/her sexual wants/needs/desires? He rarely expressed anything. He was very closed off about it.
How communicative are you about yours? When we were first dating and first married I was really shy about it, but after a year or two I really started to let him know what I needed. I really became much better at it oddly enough shortly before the relationship ended. I used to be ashamed and shy but now I know better and I have no problem just saying what I need.
Does your partner seem validly interested in your sexual wants/needs/desires? To an extent, yes. He always made sure that I was enjoying myself during sex, but as far as keeping things interesting he was not interested in trying new things and keeping the spice going in the relationship. Even when I communicated that I needed more from him in that area, he was resistant to try.