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Is it too much to ask for a little patience?
I lurk here from TB quite often and have posted a couple times, I always appreciate the candid answers you give.
My sister was diagnosed with a brain tumor Saturday morning. She had a craniotomy yesterday to remove a baseball sized tumor from her frontal lobe. My entire family is still reeling from the news that my 34 year old sister has a brain tumor and all my H can do is complain that we don't have enough sex?! Yes it's been 2 1/2 weeks, boo friggin hoo...blame mother nature for the first week and gee I'm sorry my sister went and got a brain tumor and ruined our weekend (we had to travel out of town to be with her before surgery). I know my life shouldn't stop because my sister has a tumor that could, very well, be cancerous but my goodness shouldn't I be afforded the time to process the news and try to adjust? He's lashing out at me because I am allowing this to affect me emotionally. He think I should put it in it's box and stick it on a shelf and go back to being my normal self because there is nothing I can do for her...umm ok? Am I wrong here or is he being selfish?
Re: Is it too much to ask for a little patience?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You have a 2 month old and he's crying that it's been 2 weeks since he got to dip his wang in it? Please, dude.
I suspect that either he's an all around douche and you're only just now letting yourself see it, or that he doesn't know how to process his own fear, grief etc so he's just going with whining/anger. Either way, he is most definitely the one who needs something put in a box on the shelf.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Thankfully I can say with 100% certainty that that will never happen. Regardless he does need to learn a healthy way of processing his emotions. Counseling in never a bad idea.
The fact that his emotions turn in to anger, and he knows that, and he still takes it out on you is not healthy. He needs to talk to someone about this issue. He's not processing his emotions in a healthy way and it's going to affect all of his relationships.
You're not being selfish and you do get to take this personally. He's lashing out at you because he's too immature to act like an adult when things go wrong.
But it's such a gift, Broc. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhwbxEfy7fg
The boy needs to realize that the world does not revolve around him and just shake one out on his own.
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2.) Your husband is behaving deplorably. He is acting like a selfish jerk during a very emotional time for you.
3.) I think both of you would benefit from counseling individually and maybe some marriage counseling too. I think a tune-up around this life event may not be a bad idea for you.
Again, I am really sorry about the potential impending loss of your sibling. I pray for peace and love in your life.
If your husband is so good at the stuffing of feelings, he certainly can put his d?ck in a box and stick it on a shelf, yes?
You could "at least" him to death: "at least im not like +smace+ who refused to let her husband anywhere near the promised land until her son was almost 4 months old."
If all else fails Buy him porn, some lube and shove him in the direction of the shower.