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Kinda SO related - WWYD?
I'll try to make this easy to understand, since it's been rolling around in my head for the last week or so and spins off in a hundred directions. But SO board honestly gives the best advice.
Short version: I want to move again. But I'm wondering if it's too soon, or if that's a narrowminded view.
Long version: I grew up in the midwest. After I split from XH, I decided to up and move 14 hours away to New York state. It was a really gutsy move, to turn over a new leaf, and that's what I've done. I've started over in a new place, I got a new job, met all new people, did a lot of recovering and so forth in my 6 months here.
Then last week I went to visit family in Houston, and loved it. Loved it. It's warm, sunny, and felt like such a good fit for me. It was friendly. I hate cold weather, so much so that it borders on Seasonal Affected Disorder, maybe even full fledged SAD. And my relatives down there are amazing people, they want me to move down there. They even said they'd love to have me live with them for a while at first, and they definitely have room for it.
Also I'd love to go back to school and finish a degree, since I put all that on hold when I got married. They have a great school right nearby, and my cousin (who I'd be living with) is a great career counselor. I just feel like the floundering, divorce-recovering, mourning the death of my marriage and trying to distance myself from it is over, and it's time to get serious about where I'm going after this.
WWYD? If I were to leave in say, 9 months, is that too soon to move? I don't want to be the person who moves from place to place trying to be happy, but then, if moving would make me happy, why not...Did this make sense?
Re: Kinda SO related - WWYD?
I would go in a heartbeat.
I also grew up in the midwest, and have had an inexplicable affinity for Texas since high school. Over the last year, I've made tentative plans several times to move, but something has always held me back.
It sounds like everything would be laid right out for you with a pretty little bow.
Why not?
If anybody ever questions it, you can just say that you moved to take care of things after your divorce, and are now moving on to further yourself in life. Or, you can just tell em to eff off, it's none of their business
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I used to be someone that moved to different places and I can no longer track how many times I have moved.
What helps me is if I ever have the urge to move again, I ask myself these 2 question aside from the motive:
1. Do I have any unfinished business where I am currently at? This also includes friendships and current obligations.
2. This is a personal promise I made to myself (Is it within 1 year of a life event change?) I learn to never make a huge decision within 1 year of a major life change such as divorce/break-ups sicne healing involves those up and down days.
This is good advice. I feel like my move - while helpful in getting me away from CrazyXH and pulling me out of the drama, was a very spur of the moment thing. I didn't move here because I've always wanted to live in NY or because I particularly liked anything about it, but I told myself I'd give it 2 years. This would be more like a year and a half.
actually, just like ChasingEmmi, I was obsessed with moving to Texas during high school. Although I believe that was cowboy related.
I'd do it. DH and I moved from MD to GA years ago. We were there for 3 years (law school for DH). When we moved, we had no expectations of whether we'd stay there or not. We were in our 20's and it was the right time to get up and go and explore.
After 3 years, we were ready to come back to MD! That was 13 years ago, and I'm glad we did! MD is home for us!
~Benjamin Franklin
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I agree with GOZ!
I would! I move all the time
I am moving back to the US in two months and plan to live in ID for a year or so and maybe move to NYC or Chicago.. I would like to move to a different country again though
Go for it!
I am in Houston, feel free to PM me with any questions or whatnot! We can have a SO get together with RiverPestie and StartingOver2010 (is that the right name?)
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