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NPCER- Question about attending a Shiva
My elderly neighbor passed away last weekend. She and her family are Jewish but I get the feeling they aren't very strict. They held Shiva at her house Monday, Tuesday, and will do it again tonight. I went on Monday. Should I go again? Do people usually go more than once? If I notice that there seems to be no one there tonight should I stop in? Is that weird? She lived alone but her son lives in town so he is hosting (for lack of a better word).
What's the proper etiquette?
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Re: NPCER- Question about attending a Shiva
Some people go several times, but that's usually close friends/family.
There's no standard etiquette, but you don't need to go again.
This is a nice idea if you know the type and level of Kosher they keep. It might be tricky if you don't know the son.
Thanks again ladies. Her son was sitting on the porch when I arrived home so I just chatted with him a bit. He was clearly tired of hosting guests (he said as much) so I just told him I was around if he needed any help with the house or anything.
I took a dish with me during my first visit, and although it never even dawned on me to make sure it was kosher, people ate it so I guess I did okay. :-p
As someone who has sat shiva three times in the last five years, it gets exhausting hosting people over. The intent is to allow others to care for you and for the most part, my DH and I did let that happen. But after about the 3rd night you feel this need to just get through it so you can be left alone.
Shivas are hard and exhausting but we do appreciate people taking time to stop by. It was really nice of you to go.
Oh, it must be very draining. I was actually very happy to go (if that makes sense). My wife and I were disappointed we were not able to make the funeral (she was buried in another state) so when I found out about the Shiva (something totally new to me) I was glad I could support the family that way. Even though we knew her death was coming I'm much more upset about it than I thought I would be. She was the sweetest neighbor, and friend, and I'll miss seeing her walk her dog everyday.
I am sorry for your loss. I'm sure she was a lovely neighbor.
Sometimes I forget that I roll with a more er, fundie Jewish crowd. I'm sure they loved your dish and it is such a good thing to make sure those sitting shiva are fed, it doesn't matter what you made (maybe not pork chops!)
I'm sure your neighbors memory will be a blessing to you and I'm so sorry you lost a dear one.