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What would the niners do??? Clicky Poll Included

One couple in our friend circle has asked us to go on a cruise with them. We recently found out that said couple is bringing their parents (father has stage 4 brain cancer), his very annoying sister, and 19 month old baby. Another couple was supposed to go and now only the guy is going because they just split up.

We told them from the beginning, not to count on us going since I was out on disability for most of January and February and wanted to accumulate some time back at work.  I'm also not mentally ready to be stuck on a cruise filled with small children.  So we decided to schedule a solo vacation for May for just the two of us. 

This couple is now trying to schedule the cruise for a week or 2 after we get back and is pressuring us to go. They said that they have been waiting on us to schedule.  Allthough I have the vacation time, I don't feel right taking vacations so close together.  It doesn't make a difference for my husband, since he is out of work from mid-may until July. 

So... Last night Brett had the balls to ask me if I would mind him going on the cruise without me... he said he would share a room with his newly single, womanizer of a best friend.  I trust him completly, but his friend is a complete @sshole.

 

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Re: What would the niners do??? Clicky Poll Included

  • The answer is hell no.  That sounds like a mess.
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  • I'm a SS.  I would be pissed too at first and for me it really cones down to the people going.  Is this one of his really good friends who is newly single?  If so, I would probably be ok with DH going for the fact that maybe the friend needs sone guy time.  If it isnt a good friend then I would say I'm not okay with it.  
  • imageChristinaDawn:
    I'm a SS.  I would be pissed too at first and for me it really cones down to the people going.  Is this one of his really good friends who is newly single?  If so, I would probably be ok with DH going for the fact that maybe the friend needs sone guy time.  If it isnt a good friend then I would say I'm not okay with it.  

    He was the best man at our wedding.  I don't feel bad for in in the least since the split up was his own doing (cheating related).

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    Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
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  • It really wouldn't bother me. Guy has taken trips before with other, single friends. I think if he wants to go, you should let him.
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    imageChristinaDawn:
    I'm a SS.  I would be pissed too at first and for me it really cones down to the people going.  Is this one of his really good friends who is newly single?  If so, I would probably be ok with DH going for the fact that maybe the friend needs sone guy time.  If it isnt a good friend then I would say I'm not okay with it.  

    He was the best man at our wedding.  I don't feel bad for in in the least since the split up was his own doing (cheating related).

    hell no.

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    imageChristinaDawn:
    I'm a SS.  I would be pissed too at first and for me it really cones down to the people going.  Is this one of his really good friends who is newly single?  If so, I would probably be ok with DH going for the fact that maybe the friend needs sone guy time.  If it isnt a good friend then I would say I'm not okay with it.  

    He was the best man at our wedding.  I don't feel bad for in in the least since the split up was his own doing (cheating related).

    haha, I knew this part of it was coming.

    Kirk sees his guy friends separately at least once a year.  I'm fine with him going on guy trips, etc. but the whole situation on this one seems questionable.

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  • Under normal circumstances I would have no problem with him going on solo trips.  He has before.  It is just the thought of him sharing a tiny cabin with a man who will possibly be bringing women back bothers me. 
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    Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
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  • imagefiggs0831:

    imageChristinaDawn:
    I'm a SS.  I would be pissed too at first and for me it really cones down to the people going.  Is this one of his really good friends who is newly single?  If so, I would probably be ok with DH going for the fact that maybe the friend needs sone guy time.  If it isnt a good friend then I would say I'm not okay with it.  

    He was the best man at our wedding.  I don't feel bad for in in the least since the split up was his own doing (cheating related).

    I agree with CD although the bolded changes my mind. DH has gone on plenty of guy only trips but everyone that he does with I know and trust. If one of his friends did that, I probably wouldn't trust them.

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  • imagefiggs0831:
    Under normal circumstances I would have no problem with him going on solo trips.  He has before.  It is just the thought of him sharing a tiny cabin with a man who will possibly be bringing women back bothers me

    if it bothers you, and if you're going to worry about it the whole time he's gone, then tell him that you'd prefer for him not to go. I'm sure he'll respect that.

  • Without going bacj and quoting things.  The cheating thing definitely changes it as it does seem likely he would bring women back and That would make me feel uncomfortable too.  Plus the rest of the crowd is kind of odd, the couple, the baby, the sick dad an the single womanizer?  Idk, i woukd let your H know that you're sedinitely uncomforable with the situation for the reasons you've stated and see what he says.
  • I don't generally have a problem with guys trips, but this sounds like a disaster in the making.

    And like hell I'd let do a cruise without me!  I've never been.  And that seems like a lot of money for a vaca without me, ya know?  Not just a guys weekend or whatever.  I'd rather spend that kind of money on a trip we can both go on.

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    I don't generally have a problem with guys trips, but this sounds like a disaster in the making.

    And like hell I'd let do a cruise without me!  I've never been.  And that seems like a lot of money for a vaca without me, ya know?  Not just a guys weekend or whatever.  I'd rather spend that kind of money on a trip we can both go on.

    This exactly. DH has gone on guy trips before (he takes 2-3 a year, actually), but A) it's always with people I know and trust and B) they're never long and/or expensive.

    I'd be pissed that he got to go on a cruise without me, but that group of people sounds like a nightmare if there's any expectation of hanging out with them on the trip. It sounds awkward and annoying. I would not be okay with Dh going. 

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  • I guess I'm left wondering WHY he wants to go.  Is it because he is feeling pressure from the other couple, and/or from this guy?  To me, that is not enough.  I mean, you two will have just been on a vacation together, so it's not like he can really use the "need to get away" excuse.  And, when I think of "guys trips" I think of mostly guys only, getting away from the women, going hunting or playing poker all day, not out prowling for women.  I don't think that would even be appealing for him (?)
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    imageChristinaDawn:
    I'm a SS.  I would be pissed too at first and for me it really cones down to the people going.  Is this one of his really good friends who is newly single?  If so, I would probably be ok with DH going for the fact that maybe the friend needs sone guy time.  If it isnt a good friend then I would say I'm not okay with it.  

    He was the best man at our wedding.  I don't feel bad for in in the least since the split up was his own doing (cheating related).

    Hellz no !

    If the girl cheated , then maybe. Since it was his doing, hell no. You all know that this dude will be out on the prowl and will use your H as a wingman.

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