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Re: Mommy Wars
How normal is it for a 5 year old to wake up his parents at night? Is this typical, or perhaps a reason to seek medical intervention?
I don't know why this child does it. I don't know if he's having night terrors or is sick or is wetting the bed or what. But all of those seem like reasons to call the doctor, yes? Or have the child seriously evaluated?
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Re: Re: Mommy Wars
Maybe I am missing something but none of those would be reasons I would take my kid to the doctor. Maybe with the night terrors thing. I thought it was normal for kids to wake their parents at night, especially when they can get out of the bed.
Our four year old reguarly travels into our room once a night. Sometimes he is wet, sometimes he wants retucked in, sometimes he asks us if it is morning, sometimes he had a bad dream etc. Seems like a normal part of development to me.
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My 5 year old has woken me every night this week, becuase she has a cold and the coughing wakes her and then she can't get back to sleep because she doesn't feel great.
Typically she doesn't.
So if it's a short term thing, not a big deal.
If it's a constant thing, maybe just a behavioral/crappy sleep thing. This is a common age to be scared of the dark - sometimes I wake and my daughter's in bed with us because she woke up, got scared, and came in. Totally normal.
Really, it depends on the circumstances whether it's "okay" or not, which we don't know.
Normal. Kids' sleep patterns develop at different times. I might try to address things like whether his room is too warm or too cold, if there's some kind of neighborhood noise that is regularly waking him up... for the problems you mention, any of them standing alone I wouldn't be too worried about - it's still "normal" for boys to have accidents up through age 6 (girls through age 5). I don't know. I guess this is on the range of "concerning", but not really "alarming". I would investigate and try to address potential problems (maybe change up the bed time routine, cut down on sugar, fewer stimulating movies or computer games in the hour before bed). But this wouldn't really get my attention that much.
It's not short term. He's always done this. I think he may just not sleep well. That would worry me.
This is my nephew, btw. My SIL just posted that she'll probably never sleep again, WOE IS ME. Her youngest is 3. It seems like more normal sleep should be right on the horizon.
I'm honestly worried about my nephew who still does this at 5 and a half.
Some kids aren't great sleepers. My daughter's not. Nothing developmentally or medically wrong with her, she's just not a great sleeper. She took cat naps as a newborn/infant, and dropped her naps early. It's just life, and when she hit 4.5/5 it improved dramatically, but she does still wake up. Eventually she'll not wake me when she does it.
my younger nephew spent a solid 6 months waking my sister up in the middle of the night by standing there, starinig at her. it was fwcking creepy.
Oh it is a constant thing? I thought it was more of an ebb and flow type thing, which I think is normal.
I think you can also make a big difference with how much you put your foot down. Like J may come in our room but he absolutely does not get to sleep in our bed. So there isn't much motivation for him to wake us up unless he really does need something from us. And I have rules that he can't come in to ask me if it is morning (he has a clock) but he should absolutely wake me if he has peed the bed. He is old enough to understand it and for the most part does not abuse the rules.
Maybe there is a genuine concern with your nephew or maybe your SIL isn't being firm enough about bedtime and staying in ones room.
If you don't know why the child is doing it then it would be impossible to say if said child needs to be seriously evaluated.
this sounds more like Mom and Dad are letting him get away with getting up at night then a real problem.
DD is 19 months and unless she's sick or teething she sleeps through the night and doesn't wake us up. We ferbered at 7.5 months to make sure that happened.
The occasional wake up (nightmare, bad storm, sick, etc.) is one thing but a 5 yr old is plenty old enough to understand rules and that he's not allowerd to get up unless it's an emergency or he really needs mom or dad.
What my Aunt did with her 4 yr old when they had this problem was get this night light that you set a timer on and before the wake up time it glowed yellow, after it turned green. They told their daughter that she could not leave her room (it had a bathroom attached) until the light was green unless it was an emergency (they had a discussion about what qualified as an emergency as part of this). It worked like a charm she got up one time which led to the consequence of having her barbie house taken away for the day (they told her ahead of time what would happen if she got up) after that she's slept well and stayed in her room until it's time to get up.