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How young is too young for you?
I know, I know, age doesn't matter, what really matters is maturity level, but really, do you have an age limit that you just wont go under?
For me, it's been 25 all along. Im going to be 28 in April and I feel like any younger is just too big of a gap.
Well, I hung out with this guy last night that is 24 and will be 25 in July. I dont know him well enough yet to know about maturity level, but should I even go over my self imposed age bracket? We had tons of fun, but Im wondering if Im shooting myself in the foot here with a younger guy.
Re: How young is too young for you?
I have dated younger men and one of the guy was a true gentleman who's intention was sincere and he was very mature. If I didn't mess it up, I'd still be with him.
With that said, the other younger men were just not mature enough. I have dated older guys and a lot of them weren't mature either lol!
I won't date younger. Heck, I won't even date my own age. I like men older than me, by 5-10 years.
That being said, if I met someone in person who was younger and we hit it off and he was mature, I wouldn't disqualify him because of age. I will disqualify them because of age when I'm dating online though. I'm not interested in wasting my time on younger men. That's just me.
My mother always said the husband should be smarter than the wife. It's the same concept - it's a propping up of a power imbalance. Is a power imbalance what you really want in a relationship?
I'll be 28 this year and I think 25 is about the youngest I will go for dating purposes. By then, they should be out of college. I already had to financially support my XH, I do not want to do that again.
Now, FWBs on the other hand...... youngest was 21.
Well I'm 29 but I have been through a lot and am a mature 29. I have tried dating younger men, don't get me wrong, but I've definitely sensed a lack of maturity.
I don't have a hard and fast age that I won't go below, and I do think there's exceptions to every rule, but for the most part even one or two years younger than me is too young.
I think if you're having fun with the guy, just go with it and see what happens!
I'd go for it. The age difference isn't especially significant, you already know him enough to be interested,and he's not far beyond your cut-off.
Signed,
The 33 year old who never dated younger until she got together with her 29 year old BF.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I have a more flameworthy explanation than this but, yeah, it does seem that thinking that the man needs to be older than you is a young woman's mindset.
I am 31 and wouldn't date younger than 27... this is because that's how old my little brother is.
I prefer older guys actually. The guy I flirted with last night is mid-thirties and has some grey hair and some fine lines on his eyes when he smiles... i think it's very cute
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
As long as he's 21 and can drink. Haha.
But in all honesty, for me it's more about having certain aspects that tend to come with maturity. A job (so we don't go out places and he says, "I only have $10 in my wallet, can you cover the rest?"), minimal drama (because really, there's been enough of that in my life as it is), etc.
Also, my brother is five years younger than me, so dating someone younger than him is a little too freaky for me.
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