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Really Embarassing for Me

Since returning from our honeymoon in late November, whenever DH and I have sex, or try to for that matter, I can't self lubricate. He thinks that I'm not attracted to him anymore, but I am! It's been two months with no change. What is going on with me?



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Re: Really Embarassing for Me

  • Well, true, but I was hoping to return to being natural.



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  • Are you on any medications? Sometimes taking anti depressants can make it hard to self lubricate. This has happened to me for a long time. We just make sure to spend extra time with foreplay, and even then sometimes we have trouble.
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  • Tri Nessa and and Omerprazole (taken for acid reflux)



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  • imageLoisLane007:
    Tri Nessa and and Omerprazole (taken for acid reflux)

    How long have you been taking each of them?  Did you start trinessa (birth control pills) when you got married?  Perhaps you need to change your pill because it is interfering with your lubrication?

    Talk to your obgyn. You may want to have a hormone level check to make sure everything is working properly. 

  • I have to use ky or any kind of lube 95% of the time and it has nothing to do with not being attracted to dh. I am very attracted to my husband and it has been like this on and off since we met 5 years ago. I am also on birth control and even when I was preggo and nursing it was still dry. Just a rare thing when I can get wet on my own. I would just really explain there are other reasons to not be wet and to just get some lube or let him use his mouth to get you wet:)
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  • imageLoisLane007:
    Tri Nessa and and Omerprazole (taken for acid reflux)

    I took Tri Nessa for years and I'm still not back to normal. I'm off of the pill now and drinking more water has really helped. Its much better now that I'm not on it though and I will never go back.

    Vaginal dryness is a side effect of birth control pills. I tried finding one I  could switch to that would not do this and I wasn't able to. I'm currently TTC but even after I have a baby I will be using another form of birth control.

    Discuss it with your doctor. You might find that a different pill doesn't affect you the same way.  

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    Do you lubricate when you masturbate? If so, it's not a physical problem, it's an arousal problem.

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  • It could be TriNessa. I switched to that one from Ortho about 5 months ago. SO maybe that's it.

     

    As far as masturbation goes, not really. Because I'm dry, it's almost painful. 




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  • I bet it is meds. Try incorporating the lube into your foreplay. More stress about this isn't helping. 
  • Not so much stress as utter annoyance.



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  • Ditto to pretty much everything the PPs have said.  I had serious issues when I was on bc.  When I went off to get pregnant, my body did a 180.  good luck!
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  • Making an appointment with my gyno to change my BC this morning.



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  • BCPs did it for me...once I got off of them (I know it isn't an option for everyone) I was fine. You can ask your GYN about estrogen creams and such that help with dryness "naturally" so you don't have to go the lubricant route and get to the core of the issue.
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  • Eh sometimes it just happens.  I think somewhere around my early twenties I just randomly switched one day where I found it almost impossible to self lubricate.  Every so often I will, but sometimes I will even have that "loins on fire" feeling as I call it, where I feel like if he doesn't screw me RIGHT then I'll just lose it completely.  And still be dry as a bone! 
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  • It is the hormones and frankly as a woman you will find it fluctuates your whole life so definitely find a great lube you like. Every woman should have good lube she likes and it will save you the frustration during intimate times and is great for him too, longer lasting sex, better orgasms, no vaginal wear and tear.

    I sell sex toys and I am constantly telling women about lube and they all WANT to be natural - it just won't last. Our bodies lubricate so we can get pregnant and that is all it cares about so when we put hormones in to prevent ovulation we are messing with that.

    And try adding Omega 7 to your diet.

    Recommended by a great sex educator I listen to online. She discovered it after she had cancer treatments that made her very dehydrated all over.

    It helps you retain natural moisture in your body in your organs, skin and thankfully your vagina and it is totally natural.

    Great for post-menopausal ladies and ladies like me who are in their 30's and have had a few babies!

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