Trouble in Paradise
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STF and Confessions!
Campus is closed for the Cesar Chavez holiday, so I got to sleep in and watch Colbert in my jammies.
My guy returned from his conference yesterday and came straight to my house. The kisses, the sex, the everything...mind.blowing.
Oh, also, I really want to comment in the "how awesome is your SO" post, but it's still in the mushy, sweet, I love everything about you phase and the gushing would make y'all throw up.
Look with your special eyes.
Re: STF and Confessions!
Mine involves sex and a confession in one.
We have not had sex since we've had the puppy. We've had him since February 19th. We are both so frickin tired all of the time and try to get as much sleep as possible because the puppy is up around 4:00 a.m. with us putting him in his crate at 10:30 p.m. He also barks and cries whenever we leave the room, so we don't have very many options. UGH. I honestly don't even miss it at the moment.
I think it's worse than having a baby!
Lucky. I wanted to sleep in this morning so bad.
I tried to start something last night. DH was not in the mood. I understand not being in the mood, it happens to all of us. So, say something like, "I'm not really feeling it, but maybe you could change my mind...?" Even say, "No, not right now, can we try tomorrow?" Give me a friggin hint here, I won't be angry.
He played 'dead fish'. So then I ended up yelling at him because I'm not asking for him to always start it, but being willing to participate would make it a lot easier on my end. Sometimes he decides that he shouldn't have to put a lot of effort in to it, which I get, but he doesn't seem to understand that just lying there and waiting for things to happen is an instant turn off for me too.
I'm still kind of pissed about it today.
OMG put that damn dog in a crate in the basement for an hour! You're crazy!
No wonder you are off the baby train!
It's hard to get into the mood when the dog is barking/crying and you're tired. I'd rather sleep!
This is a very needy puppy.
A puppy is whatever you teach it to be. And you need to teach this dog to be by itself or you're going to be screwed and the pup is going to have anxiety every time you leave the house.
Also, no sex for five weeks because of a crying puppy! That's craycray sister! You need to get some!
H is home today, and I'm super horny, but he's in a bad mood because the dog peed on the carpet.
I cleaned the pee but it didn't exactly set the mood.
I will add my own STF.
Last night we were closing up downstairs, locking doors and turning off lights, and I went to give H a quick kiss in the kitchen. He started full-on making out with me, pressed me up against the wall, grabbed my butt, etc. This quickly led to my pants on the ground and his unbuttoned. He held my hips, I wrapped my legs around him, and we did it up against the wall for a while. As we started to get tired he just moved away from the wall and carried me to the living room, set me on the arm of the couch, and finished the job.
It was super hot.
I apologize to all of you who have sat on my couch or will in the future. But you had to know that wasn't the first time something like this has happened anyways.
Sorry to hijack the STF thread.
He doesn't cry through the whole night, just a little while after we put him in his crate (10-15 mins maybe) and then around 4:00 a.m. We cut his water out about 2 hrs before bedtime, but he's still up early. Any little noise he hears wakes him up and he starts up again. We can't get up during the night to go to the bathroom without him waking up and barking. He hears the floor creak.
We try to leave him in the kitchen or in his crate by himself while we do stuff around the house and the minute he can't see us he barks or cries. We let him bark and cry for a while, but eventually we have to do something for our sanity and for the sake of the neighbors who are contemplating calling the cops on us for letting our dog bark non-stop. The longest we've let him cry is about an hour and we couldn't take it anymore (we knew he was fine and had just gone potty, so it wasn't that he needed anything). We are doing everything we can to not let him associate barking with getting attention. We walk down the basement stairs to get something and he stands at the top of the steps and barks while he watches us go down the steps and then again when we come back up. He's getting a little bit better about it, but it's still frustrating.
Sorry...I had to vent. We've asked the vet, read books, watched shows on TV, asked people we know and searched the internet for ideas on how to break him of his barking and crying. Some days are better than others.
He's so darn cute though.
Now you have me all hot and bothered BBE. Thanks a lot.
I also never would've thought a thing about your couch if you hadn't brought it up and now I will blush if I ever sit on your couch. But really, does anyone have a virgin couch?
....rawr.
I've been trying to get a hold of the Kennel Club to get him into a class and they never call me back (they only have classes on Tuesday nights). The next one that starts up will be starting the week after his neuter and I didn't think that was a good idea. I'm going to try to get him in the next round of classes which I think start in May.
He's crated in the kitchen. We moved him to the opposite end of the kitchen as far away from our bedroom/living room as possible with the hope that he wouldn't wake up every time he hears us. It's slightly better, but we are both afraid to talk to each other once he's settled in for the night because he might wake up. If the TV is on, he's okay. Once that's off he hears us. I don't want to keep the TV on all night.
We are looking into getting a white noise machine for the kitchen but just haven't had the time to research them yet.
I sure hope not! So depressing!
Now picture your parent's couch.
Well, I know their couch isn't virgin. Oh wait. They've gotten a new couch since I lived there.
Thanks a lot PS!
I think my couch has only gotten oral. So that's kinda like a virgin right?
(We have a big window in our front door so we generally move when things start to heat up.)
Mort, if you get up earlier to get him out will he go back to sleep for a while? Would you be able to go back to sleep?
I used to set an alarm clock for 2/3 am (depending on when we went to bed) to take out the puppies. With Maybe I had to do this for forever because she took so long to house break, with Ru it wasn't that much.
Confession - I had a pelvic exam with my Dr this morning and I burst into tears as soon as she started asking me questions. I have no rational reason to worry but I can't help thinking the worst. I feel stupid but I get these WHAT IF SOMETHING IS WRONG!?!?!?!?!? moments and I cry. I will feel better after my sonogram Tuesday.
Another crying confession (farking hormones), I burst into tears when H and I were having sex last weekend. My boobs are crazy sore so I was holding them. H went to move my arm in a way he's done a million times. I couldn't speak to say no or ouch, I just burst into tears. It took me like two full minutes to collect myself just to say, oops, sorry, lets not do that.
We put the Hump in hump day this week, so that was fun.
Mort, are you sure it's only the sound, and not also the light? When I was younger we had a dog that was afraid of the dark. One year a hurricane hit my home town, and all the electricity was out for days. At night time we had to keep a lit candle in the kitchen so the dog wouldn't cry.
This reminds me! We got a new couch and have yet to deflower it.
Hmmmm.
Thank you for saying this! I was scared that my reaction to her post made me creepy.
BBE- I need you to just tell me one sex story a day and I have a feeling my sex drive would never be a problem again! WOWZA woman!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
You've got a whole weekend ahead of you!
The last 2 times DH and I have had sex, he's been ridiculously hard. Like, defying gravity, perpendicular to the body kind of hard. It's been amazing. And also amazingly, I've orgasmed without needing much external stimulation. Plus, one of the times was successful shower sex, and it's been forever since we've done that successfully!
I suppose this is also a confession, because we're still together and having sex, even though we're still not certain about the future of our relationship. But I feel like we're both doing a lot of introspective and growing from it. Him especially (he's still seeing his therapist once a week). If things continue on along this track, I think we can re-build a better marriage. While I know many of you probably want to smack me for this, I'm not comfortable walking away without trying to see if we can make and maintain a better relationship.
Anything for you, imoan.
Jessi- Be careful, my dear. You're already hurting so much.