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How to handle this
DH and I are trying to relocate to move near family and a larger job market. We've been applying, but no leads yet.
Here's the problem: A co-worker is having a baby in Aug. and doesn't plan on returning and I would get her job. It is a promotion, but still not enough $, and still isn't anything I would want long term because there is no where to go from there. If it weren't for wanting to move, I wouldn't consider leaving right now, but wouldn't want to stay long term either. I really care about my company, but I am young and need to do what is best for my career, DH's career and our personal life.
My boss wants to talk with me next week about a plan for transitioning. I really don't want to lie to him, but I also don't want to say anything that would jeaprodize my current position. How would you handle that conversation? TIA!
Re: How to handle this
I would go forward with the promotion. Your boss doesn't need to know every detail about your future goals. Re-locating is easier said than done so it might be more prudent to have a pay check coming in while you work on re-locating. As long as you give 2 weeks notice when you leave, I don't think you would be doing anything unethical by not sharing that you eventually want to re-locate and it might be beneficial to have that promotion on your resume. JMO
I agree with sugarbaby, but there are a number of factors you don't mention that I think are important to the consideration. We don't know the complexity of the job you're moving into, the length of transition time, or your relationship with your boss. I think even if you don't tell your boss about your desire to relocate, you should determine the minimum committment required to leave on good terms when you do find that job. This could mean giving up an offer if it comes too soon after the promotion.
Bottom line, set the expectations within your own mind and with YH before you accept and get yourself caught having to make tough decisions that could have been avoided.
Life happens. Take the promotion and continue on with your plan. Anything can happen and your plan to move can go wrong if something unexpected happens.
This 100%. The grass is not always greener. In that good job market there could be a lot of issues. I've relocated while looking for a new job in a better job market than what is currently out there, and it's still tough. I've also had to make the tough decision of accepting a job that wasn't my dream job, to be offered my dream job a few months later, and then have the dream job offer pulled "due to lack of funds" shortly after I gave my notice at the first job. One step at a time. I say take the promotion and work with your boss until you find something closer to family.