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Support?
Does your DH/SO support what you do for your healthy living/fitness? If so, in what wasy is he supportive? Do you expect him to be supportive or does it not matter to you? I'm asking because I don't feel like my DH is very supportive of my running/eating healthy. I don't know if maybe I am expecting too much of him though? I mean, it's not that I need a big pat on the back for everything I do but it would be nice to hear some kudos every now & then without having to ask.
Re: Support?
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
DH is very supportive. Not in a pat my back kind of way, but more just helping to make sure that I get the time I want/need to workout. When I was actively trying to lose weight he definitely congratulated and was excited for me when I'd be excited about losing a pound each week (or whatever it was). But now it's more about him dealing with the kids, without any sort of complaint or hesitation, when I miss bed time twice a week to hit the gym or when he has to get the kids ready a few times a week while I go for a run.
The thing with DH is he feels like he is being supportive by not actively trying to talk me out of running or by not trying to get me to eat junk. I've tried to explain that it would be nice to hear "hey good job on that run Hun" or " wow, I'm impressed that you keep up with your workouts even when working so much and dealing with the kids"
Yeah this would be helpful too. Don't get me wrong, DH does watch the kids so I can workout sometimes but there are a lot of times when he complains ( Whines). And it's not like he doesn't like watching the kids, he loves it, he just wants me there too. That's when I end up feeling guilty and either rushing through or bailing.
Why would he want to talk you out of not eating junk or not running? I can only think that maybe that is his habits and the fact that your doing something to better your health it makes him feel almost guilty he is not? Maybe supporting you in the way you would like to be with your new lifestyle is something he can relate to therefore he doesn't know how to support you with it? Perhaps he thinks positive things but doesn't say it? Try to bring up how he feels about all of this and his take and see where he stands, that may give you a clearer picture. Or just go straight to the point and say "I'd really like it/It would mean alot to me if you supported me in this way with this issue"
Just keep doing what your doing and come here for support!
PR's
5k 10/15/11 30:34 9:51 pace
8k 9/24/11 55:20 11:08 pace
10k 11/24/11 11:24 pace
10 mile 4/25/10 2:03:54
My H is not supportive in the way that I think you are asking about. He does not pat me on the back for eating healthfully, having a good run or for going running at all for that matter. He is very supportive in other ways. He does not complain about me spending money on fitness gear, even big ticket items. He is almost always game for doing active vacations. He makes healthy choices when he cooks for me and (correctly!?!) prepares the foods how he thinks that I would do it if I were doing it myself.
Duke's House: Eating and Running with the Big Dog in Chennai: eatrunbrit.com
2010 Race PRs:
5K - 24:57 10M - 1:28:20 13.1M - 1:57:29 26.2M - 4:28:29
DH does this too. If he was cooking for only himself he'd probably end up eating only protein and carbs. But when cooking for me (or me and the kids) he always plans in vegetables and goes light on or skips the added butter or oils. He'll make some grilled cheese sandwiches and knows to go light on the butter for me but add in tomato and spinach.
DH supports me by getting up early to be my cheer squad at my races, has no issue with me paying for races fees, and new shoes :-)
But other than that, I have learned I have to be my own support in eating healthy and getting my @ss to the gym. KWIM? The more I wanted his "pat on the back" or him to not ask me to stop at McD's, the harder it was...Once I remembered I am in charge of if/when and what I eat the easier it was to stick with it.2011-2012 Races
10/29/11 LA RockNRoll Min Half (5K) 42:58
12/4/11 Vegas RockNRoll Half 3:14:53
1/7/12 WDW Half 3:13:42
1/15/12 RnR AZ 2:55:27 (PR!!)
1/29/12 Tinkerbell 1/2 3:22:37 (To many picture stops!lol)
Me:32 DH:33
IFV w/ DE Only Option (On Hold For Now)
This! MH does push me to do more strength training though (especially since I lost so much muscle after knee surgery last summer).
I'm not sure I could be married to a man who didn't support me in whatever endeavor meant a lot to me. For us, that's been a lot - grad school, new jobs, running...he supports me in every way. And if I need something like a pat on the back or a good job, I'll tell him and he'll find a way to make that work, too.
Add that to never complaining about the money I spend on races, always being home when I need to work out, always making healthy and delicious dinner, and always rubbing my hips and back when I ask and I'm pretty sure I hit the supportive husband jackpot.
Yes,I'm smiling...I'm a marathoner!
Bloggy McBloggerson
CO Nestie Award Winner-Prettiest Brain-Back to Back!
2011 Bests
5K-22:49 10K-47:38 Half Mary-1:51:50
2012 Race Report
1/1-New Year's 5K-22:11
2/11-Sweetheart Classic 4-mile-29:49
3/24-Coulee Chase 5K-21:40
5/6-Colorado Marathon-4:08:30
5/28-Bolder Boulder 10K
We both eat healthy and we workout together. So, we're definitely on the same page and we encourage each other.
Does your H eat healthy also?
Sorry I post and ran...work got busy! For the most part DH eats healthy, sometimes he splurges but not all the time. Mostly he has trouble with portion control and he really doesn't like much in the way of exercise.