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Hi, I need some gift ideas please. (BR)
Hey ladies. I need your help. One of my friends lost her husband in a training accident in February. She moved back home to be with family before I got a chance to see her. (I was also busy getting things together for our move to Texas.) She just found out that she's having a baby girl. I'd like to send her a gift not only for the baby, but for her as well. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to send her? I'm totally drawing a blank. Thanks for your help!
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Re: Hi, I need some gift ideas please. (BR)
How about something with a guardian angel theme for the baby?
For mom, what about a gift card for a massage. It sounds trite but I don't think getting anything that gives her a permanent reminder of her husband is a good idea. Not that she should forget him but things like that are so personal you wouldn't want to give her a gift and make her feel obligated to display it or wear it.
I like the guardian angel idea.
I agree with you on the bolded. I just want to get something that she will enjoy. The massage gift card could work, I just need to find a spa near her.
Do you know if she has a support system for labor and delivery and post-partum? If you have time, maybe you could contact doulas near her and ask if they'll volunteer their services or work at a reduced cost. That's obviously not a tangible gift, but one of time that she might like.
I honestly have no idea. I haven't talked to her since before the accident. I've tried messaging her a few times, but she hasn't responded. I messaged her earlier today for her address to send the gift. So, I just have to wait and see if she replies to that.
If she doesn't respond, I'd contact the FRO. Perhaps she'd be able to help with Ojo's idea and coordinating many gifts. I know the whole wing would probably come together, and at least the sister squadrons.
I agree ^^^. I got a massage in my 2nd Tri and it was amazing!!
I'm not trying to be a negative Nelly, but before you contact the FRO or try to get other people involved make sure it is something she would want. When a close friend was KIA(which I know is very different, but I'm sure there may be some similar thoughts and feelings), his widow was very frustrated by all of the EXTRA people that wanted to help and started to come out of the woodwork. She was very thankful that they wanted to help, but she said it became clear that people were helping because they thought it was the right thing to do and made them feel better, which she found overwhelming. She said people started coming out of the woodwork and people would bring her dinner and it got so out of hand that she started to feel like some of it was so that people could say oh I did this for so and so. She said all she wanted was real friends to listen and not judge. I'm not saying your friend would be bothered by any of that or not, you know her better than we do. I"m just saying, I would be cautious before I get anyone else involved in something (such as a FRO or a care calendar etc). If you know she wouldn't be bothered, then I do think those are both great ideas!
I think a spa gift card is an amazing idea. If you can find one in her area, you could probably just call and purchase one over the phone with a credit card maybe. Is there any interests or hobbies that she has? Maybe you can do something that goes along with one of those.
There are a lot of other great ideas posted above. Good luck deciding what to do!
That's why I think the FRO is better. Rather than a million people coming out of the woodwork, it's one large donation. Because I'm totally with you. If I lost H, I would get far away from everyone who knew.
ETA: Except Ojo!
ITA with the bolded. A massage late in pregnancy would have been heavenly. I also liked the idea a pp had with setting up a maid service to periodically come in during the first few months. There are times it was hard to take care of the basics those first few months...and some of the housework fell by the wayside...and that was WITH my DH here. She'll probably also need someone to give her some baby-free time now and then...but that's probably better suited to the immediate family if they are nearby.
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