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saw something disturbing tonight
And I can't stop thinking about it. FI and I were on our way home from the gym and we saw a bunch of cars stopped up ahead. There were at least 6 or 7 cars pulled over and people standing around. As we got closer I saw a hat on the ground and I kinda knew what had happened.
A kid was talking to the driver in the car ahead of us and when they left he came and asked me if we were in a hurry. He said his friend had been hit by a car and he was unconscious and he wanted to know if we could block the lane (the cops weren't there yet). I waited there for a minute or 2 until a cop pulled up behind me and we saw the ambulance on its way. I got a glimpse of the kid as we pulled away and his face was all bloody.
Luckily it happened close to a hospital but I really hope the kid is ok. I don't even know if he was alive when we saw him. I just feel so bad for the kid and for his friends who probably watched him get hit. I don't think the story is gonna be in the news unless the kid dies... I wish I could know if he was ok or not.
I'd never seen anything like that in person before so I guess that's why I'm kinda shaken up. I don't know why I wrote this... maybe it'll help me stop thinking about it.
Also, the drivers around here are buttholes. They were honking at the cars that were stopping. They see a bunch of cars stopped and a crowd of people standing around, what did they think was going on?! Ugh.
Anyway, it's just kind of weird to me that I can watch bloody horror movies, or even stuff on the news but that stuff doesn't bother with me. This really disturbed me though. Has anyone else seen anything similar?
Re: saw something disturbing tonight
A few months ago, I was irritated that a couple of cars were stopped in the middle of a lane instead of pulling into one of the nearby parking lots. As I went around them and drove by, I noticed a police car coming up behind me, and then I looked over at the cars and saw a motorcycle underneath the front end of one of the cars. Then I saw a man lying on the ground.
I had never seen anything like that before. I can watch gory movies and stuff like that too, but seeing the accident and that man nearly made me vomit.
Needless to say, I felt like a total a**hole because I was annoyed at first, even though I didn't know what had happened.
When I was 14, my parents, brother, and I were coming home from a Van Halen concert. A motorcyclist decided a split-second too late that he wanted to get on the highway we were exiting onto and hit the median. He lost control, flew over my dad's car, and landed a few feet in front of us. All I remember is he wasn't wearing a helmet, my dad stopping and being out of the car for a while, and my normally calm mother freaking out and getting into the backseat woth my brother and me and telling us not to look. The guy died, my dad said there wasn't much left of him, and my mom still freaks out if anyone brings it up.
I'm really sorry you had to experience that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being shaken by it. Take some time to relax and talk it out with people.
Also, Malibu, I am now afraid to drive. JFC!
JFC Malibu. That's horrifying. I am always so freaked out by motorcyclists - I'm fine with people who obey the laws and wear helmets, it's the ones who fly down the highway at 120 with no helmet on and pop wheelies in rush hour that piss me off. I don't think most of them realize how truly vulnerable they are if they've never been thrown from their bike.
I have no story to compare to Malibu's, but I did once see a motorcycle accident where the rider flew off his bike on a huge bridge (luckily stayed on the bridge) and the whole bike was just demolished - tires bouncing, pieces flying. His friends were running around the highway picking up the pieces so I think he must have been okay if they were concerned about the bike.
The only other thing I can think of is that H and I were walking downtown over the winter and saw someone riding a bicycle get hit by a car. He was just lying in the middle of the street for a long time. Before we had even walked past them, the cops were there, and I think the guy was okay.
I haven't personally seen an accident that bad, but DH once saw what was left of someone who decided to commit suicide by running out into the highway.
I'm sorry you saw this and hope everything turns out ok for the kid. You could probably call the police department and ask
When I was a kid my grandfather owned a tow truck company/mechanic shop and my dad and uncle worked for him. I spent a lot of time at the shop because my mom worked as well, and my brother and I had to go on tows with my dad sometimes if no one was around to watch us.
Thankfully we never went on any where the accident scene wasn't cleaned up of bodies, but we did see a lot of the aftermath of twisted wrecked cars with bloodspattered windows and pavement.
My dad said that many times in the years he was driving, he was on the scene of the accident before the paramedics or police or coroner were there. He saw a lot of terrible accidents with bodies still laying there while he waited to do his job. Because they worked closely with the Highway Patrol here, they also had a lot of pictures of accident scenes for files, and I remember seeing a few with bodies/body parts in them.
My dad was also hit by 2 cars while working on accident scenes because people weren't paying attention and just plowed into him while he was outside of his truck. One woman managed to drive up the ramp of the flatbed truck, sending him flying over the cab of it when she hit him. Its a dangerous fuckedup job.
It's not weird that you can watch a bloody horror movie and be okay but this disturbs you.
Horror movies are fiction- and in your brain, you know that. This was a real person who was for real hurt and suffering- and you know that. I would have been very upset too.
I dunno how successful it will be but maybe you can call the hospital and tell them the date and time you blocked the traffic and ask if the kid was okay? They may not be able to give you a lot of info but could maybe let you know that he was alright.
Yeah. I totally understand why it's disturbing.
I watched a friend get hit by a car once. She lived, but was in the hospital for awhile. I was 11 or 12, I think. REALLY upsetting.
Then about a year or so ago, I saw the aftermath of a motorcycle accident and a body on the ground covered by a sheet. Found out later it was a woman about my age.
It's definitely unsettling.
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I was visiting my mom during college. We were out shopping and going out to lunch when we came upon a heartbreaking scene.
There was a motorcyclist that had seriously miss-timed a lane change or merge onto the highway. When he went to change over he ran into a SUV. They were all going about 65 or so. He was wearing a helmet, but not much would save him. The velocity propelled him into the backseat area of the SUV & decapitated him. The bike followed after and cut the car in two.
The woman who was driving was screaming her head off in a sound I will never forget. Especially now that I have a kid-- it haunts me. Both of her children (toddlers) were in the backseat strapped safely into their car seats. However, when a body comes barreling through the car at 65 (or more) mph it has crushing force.
My mom used to be an EMT so she told me to stay put and dial 911. She went to check on the kids, but they were already gone.
I made the mistake of getting out to help, but just stood there gaping at the scene. It was truly awful. I finally pulled myself together and started directing traffic until the cops got there. This was one of the main factors that talked me out of ever buying a motorcycle.
What a terrible thing to witness! I'm sorry you had to see this, even if it was just the aftermath, and my heart goes out to this poor kid and his family/friends.
I saw a bicycle accident on campus when I was in college. A car made a free right just as the bicyclist was entering the crosswalk. His friend was close behind, and it was horrible to hear the friend desperately screaming for the guy. Fortunately, the guy survived with some not-too-severe head injuries and a few broken bones.
ETA: My best friend witnessed a really close friend of his get killed in a car accident when they were pre-teens. They were actually both in the car, but his friend was sitting in the front seat right where the impact was. He continues to struggle with it fifteen years later.
Holy sh!t. That's the kind of tragedy I have a hard time accepting as real. But I know it is, and that's horrible.
Schunks - I'm so sorry you had to witness that, and sorry to hear about the boy's passing. So, so sad.
About a year ago today, my husband and I were walking home from the gym and witnessed a really horrific motorcycle accident unfold right before our eyes. We were waiting to cross at a six-corners intersection (3 streets - Chicago is weird...), and a motorcycle (two passengers, no helmets) was gunning it to make it through the intersection before the light turned.
It was sunny, and a Jeep in the opposite direction didn't see the motorcycle as she turned left. She hit them head-on, and they just went flying. Like rag dolls in the air. They actually wound up underneath an Expedition waiting at the light on one of the intersecting streets. Miraculously, they both regained consciousness at the scene, and seemed to be pretty with it. I was interviewed by police and listed as a witness, so they contacted me later and I found out that they both made it and were doing well. At the time, though, there was so much blood and it was so, so scary. I still get a little nervous at that intersection.
What amazed me - and still amazes me to this day - is the way everyone that was out enjoying this sunny day just sprung into action as we waited for the ambulance. People poured into the street and started to direct traffic right away; others went over to the motorcycle passengers and started to check on them; one wise woman went over to the driver of the Jeep and stayed with her the whole time (she was freaking out). It was a scary scene, but it also re-affirmed my faith in humanity, seeing everyone just wanting to help and taking it upon themselves to do so...