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jm5855, I have a question for you.
Mr. Kuus and I are considering a vasectomy very seriously, and want to be prepared.
FIL has told Mr. Kuus for YEARS, before he was even thinking of sex as a near-future possibility, that vasectomies are a terrible thing because sex never feels the same again. He's just inappropriate like that. We were wondering if that is true in general, or if for FIL sex is emotionally tied up very heavily into the possibility of procreation (being Catholic and also kind of weird and all) such that he can't enjoy it as much now that this is not a possibility. Maybe he could previously feel every sperm leaving, despite not being able to feel what the entry angle of a vagina is and how to get in with a minimum of fuss (that part comes from MIL, who is also inappropriate).
What was/is your experience with this? Have you felt any lasting difference, or long-term side effects? How was the recovery?
Re: jm5855, I have a question for you.
Hey Kuus.
It has had zero effect on my sex life. My libido didnt diminish and perform at the same levels as before my vasectomy. Sorry to be graphic here, but the amount of the ejaculation is barely noticeable...not much of a decrease at all.
Per the doctor I took one valium about an hour before the operation to calm me down. Obv he will need to completely shave his gonads..lol. The process was very easy and almost pain free. There is slight discomfort at the beginning of the procedure when they are injecting pain numbing stuff into your balls. Also it was a very creepy feeling when he was tugging on my cords...I could feel it higher up in my body. The procedure only lasted 15 minutes, my ex-wife even waited in the car with my kids while I was having it done. Also it was classified as a doctor's visit so I only paid my $25 co-pay...$25 for a vasectomy. Well worth it.
Recovery wasnt bad either...iced the area down for 2 days is all. They say everyone recovers different so I must have been one of the lucky one's. There is a small scar from where he went in..but who the hell would really care about a scar down there.
After the procedure is done they will tell your H to ejaculate at least 12 times to ensure there arent any "leftovers" in the tube. Once he does that he will bring in a sample and have it tested to make ensure he is shooting blanks.
Honestly the weirdest part was the nurse holding my junk and the 2 interns who came into watch (they did ask my permission).
BIP
TMI!!! My FWB has a vas... didn't affect his libido. He said the procedure took less time than it did to shave his balls. He would totally do it again. He didn't take any painkillers and just put a bag of peas on it afterwards. He had it done on a Friday and was back to work on Monday.
And no lasting effects....
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Hahahaha...no problem!!
BF wanted to chime in on this one:
"Ah yes, the old "snip snip". Best decision EVER! Sex is better than before because you don't have to worry about those annoying babies popping out nine months later. It's pure recreation. Recovery time is about ten days or so. Once healed, it's important that you have as many orgasms as possible. You have to thoroughly flush the seminal vesicles where the sperm is mixed with the semen. Once that has been accomplished, you are good to go."
As you can tell, he's been quite happy with it.
I have a friend looking into this actually... I will pass this along to him
Ah, thank you for your candor!
Have you ever heard of anyone other than my FIL saying that sex never feels as good again? Because from what I'm seeing and hearing, he's completely alone in this opinion.
No I havent. I would agree that he is completely alone in that opinion.