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vent: my birthday sucks so far
I have about 3 friends here. I asked one to do something with me, but she couldn't because she was already having dinner guests but invited me to come as well, then we'd go out afterwards. In the meantime, Friend B asked me to go to dinner, so I told my first friend that since she was having dinner at her place already, I would go with Friend B and then we'd meet up with her later for drinks. She got super pissy and basically said have a nice life. I repeat, the dinner party she was having wasn't for me at all, but because I didn't want to do it she's not speaking to me anymore. She's done this before this was at least less dramatic. She's a toxic friend, but like I said, I keep being friends with her because I don't have a ton of options.
I told my husband the only thing I wanted for my birthday was a day off from being the primary parent. He works 70 hour weeks and weekends often, so I'm usually on my own and want a break. He and DD don't have to leave the house, I like having them around, I just don't want to be in charge. He's never understood this. He spent 3 hours this morning on the phone with his friend, meaning NOT parenting which lef t it to me again. So I spent my morning doing art projects and laundry. Then he wants to know why I'm pissy.
Then we have an actual argument because he wants to take DD to the park. It's 40 degrees here and windy. She has on a thin shirt and a thin sweatshirt. No undershirt, no hat, nothing. I tell her to put on a jacket and he gets mad and says, "I'm in charge so you don't tell me how to parent." We have had this EXACT same issue several times since she was born, but it doesn't come up much as much recently because heI's never here to be in charge. I told him she needs a jacket on and he just went on and on about how I'm always telling him how to parent. I swear to you on a stack of Bibles I don't except when he's doing something actually wrong. Not like, something I don't like, but something not good. And this does happen because he doesn't get much practice, he's not here. He asks why I don't get on the babysitter or teacher's case and I said because they have common sense. I didn't say it so bluntly but he knew what I meant. I hate how I'm never supposed to say anything because of his ego. Like I've said before, the vaccine fights nearly sent us to divorce court. It's all really frustrating.
It probably has something to do with the guilt he feels never being around, but that's not my problem.
So I'm sitting on the couch crying and depressed watching My-So Called Life by myself. Sorry for the whining. It's definitely been one of those weeks where my passport has been whispering to me to pack up and go home. I can't wait for it to be 8 o'clock so I can get the *** out of here with the one of my last friends, who is luckily very sweet and normal, and have a fvckin drink....or five.
Re: vent: my birthday sucks so far
He needs a swift kick in the asss. I am so sorry it has sucked so far. Maybe he can redeem himself a tiny bit later, but what is done is done.
No crying on your birthday, I forbid it. Get out the Amex and buy yourself something fun or book something for yourself you would never normally do.
Your passport will get you to Ohio btw
*hugs*
WTMF? Well that's a ***-tastic way to spend your birthday so far.
Do you need to be home right now? I say get thefuckk out of there and get a huge-ass starbucks and walk around the mall at the very least.
WAIT - there is supposedly a bunch of free stuff you can get on your birthday at different places like bruggers. I will do some digging and you could go on a free food/drink spree!
I know you are in Germany but maybe there is something similar there to this idea. I just googled "free food on your birthday"
http://www.heyitsfree.net/birthday-freebies/
http://www.mrfreestuff.com/36-free-food-deals-for-your-birthday/
I'm sorry ceejay. I hope you have an awesome time tonight to make up for it!
I'm so sorry your day is sucking.
I'm with copz, he needs a swift kick to a part or two of his anatomy. I hope he comes to his senses soon, but in the meantime, take her advice and go do something nice for you while you relax and wait for your yummy drinks this evening.
::hugs::
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Why wait until this evening? Start drinking NOW.
I'm sorry
Hopefully he will make up for it later and you will get to enjoy your evening.
Is there anyway you can go home for a little bit? Just a vacation?
Thanks, guys. Seriously, it's super nice to have people who you know can make you feel better when your day is crappy. I really appreciate it you letting me vent here.
Ringstrue: you're so sweet. Thanks for looking that up for me.
And yes, I totally need a vacation back home. I honestly think going 2 years without going back before made me a little kooky. I need to finish a project in May and then I'm out.
I'm feeling better and progressing to the wine-in-hand/shower/need-an-hour-to-find-an-outfit stage. Though FWIW I have to say the writing on My-SCL is about as good as Mad Men. Never noticed that before. LOL
Again, really, thanks.
Sorry you are having a crummy birthday.
Social etiquette (sp) says once your accept an offer you do not dump it when you get a "better offer". That was not the right thing to do -- and I understand her being miffed if you have done this before. I would appologize.
Oh Sisu. Sigh.
Check it, if you make it back anywhere near me, let me know and I will road-trip it to see you. I'm dead serious on that.
(((hugs)))
I hope you have some fun this evening, in the meantime, I will scowl face the H from the U.S.
Sorry for the crappy day, Cee-jay. I'd definitely be there going out with you if I were anywhere near you and helping you have a good time!
Buy yourself something nice and start drinking ASAP!
Oh, ceejay, I'm sorry to hear you're having a rotten day. I hope this evening everything perks up for you.
Feel free to swing by Cali if your passport calls.
double sigh.
my read shelf:
Honestly, Sis, I appreciate your consistency. I really do. This honestly made me smile.
But she didn't invite me out. I invited her and she said she couldn't go but I should come over until she could go out later. So I just took the "later" part because I don't want to hang out with her and her mom on my bday. But fair enough maybe I screwed that up?
The bigger issue is that I've been "yes"-ing and pleasing people my whole life and I made a promise to myself that now that I'm 3-- years old, I really don't want to do that anymore. I have "yes"-d and people pleased myself right into more than a few situations that I'm still trying to extricate myself from. So I just decided to do what I wanted to do for my birthday for once. Maybe she is within her rights to be mad, but I honestly didn't think she was doing anything other than including me on something she was already doing, and I'll add (though it's immature and irrelevant to the current issue) that she has done far worse to me.
But yes, I'll probably apologize in a couple days.