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HELP ME!!!

So my FI and I have been living together for almost two years and in a relationship for about 8.  He's had problems with feelings of depression on and off for a while but lately it seems to really be a problem for him.  I'm seriously worried, it seems as if its been taking over his life lately.  He's not really interested in his hobbies, he complains about work more than normally and seems to get truly angry about it.  I've been noticing him starting to eat a lot less than normal and skip meals.  every time I ask him what's wrong he'll tell me that its nothing or not to worry about it.  I think that he should go talk to someone, I'm not saying that he needs medication or that there's something wrong with him but I love him and want him to be happy.

 also, my father has a history of serious depression, so I'm sensitive to the issue and not sure if I might be over-reacting and making this into more than it is.  But even the FI has admitted to feeling really down.  

 please let me know what you think I should/can do about it and how to broach the subject without him getting all defensive with me about it 

Re: HELP ME!!!

  • You need to just tell him you are concerned and that you think he needs to speak with a psychologist. If he is unwilling to do so, there is nothing you can really do. He has to decide he needs help. Don't drive yourself crazy trying to fix him if he won't acknowledge there is a problem.
  • Agree with PP.
    I'm fabulous.
  • I would tell him you really want him to be happy, and you're always here if he needs someone to talk to.  Maybe he's not even exactly sure what's bringing him down.  I have a friend who is often depressed for a reason she can't identify.  She went to a therapist, and she determined that she's been overly stressed, and seems to be in a bit of an identity crisis (she's a twin). The therapist had good suggestions for working through these things, and it really helped. You could say that you know him well, and you can tell something's wrong, and if he needs to identify what it is, he could always go talk to a professional about it.  Good luck!
  • imageEmilyK1116:
    I would tell him you really want him to be happy, and you're always here if he needs someone to talk to.  Maybe he's not even exactly sure what's bringing him down.  I have a friend who is often depressed for a reason she can't identify.  She went to a therapist, and she determined that she's been overly stressed, and seems to be in a bit of an identity crisis (she's a twin). The therapist had good suggestions for working through these things, and it really helped. You could say that you know him well, and you can tell something's wrong, and if he needs to identify what it is, he could always go talk to a professional about it.  Good luck!

    ^This

    I have had issues with depression since before I can remember, I think because of my dad's unacknowledged depression problems and people trying to get me to talk to a psychologist always made me feel awful. It seemed like they wanted me to talk to a professional because they didn't want me to talk to them. Your man needs to know that you're there for him anytime, anywhere, and you could ask if HE wants to see a professional too. It's his decision.  

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