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So. Looks like we will be heading into meditation...
I have posted a couple of times about how I was planning to leave my H but was working through things with my therapist to get to the point that I was ready to share that with him and my family (backstory is that my H had an affair with a woman he met on the Internet while my mom, who is fine now, was going through chemo). Well, and probably for the best, tonight he forced my hand by initiating a conversation by asking how long we were going to live "this way." So basically we both acknowledged that we wanted out and started talking a bit nebulously about what the coming months would look like. We seem to be able to agree on a what's-mine-is-mine division, which is ideal, as we share nothing other than a cell phone plan and auto insurance policy. And since I don't plan to go after his house, he said he would like to give me $10K as a settlement of sorts, which I will not turn down. I guess I will call an attorney at some point this week and get things rolling there a bit. I did tell him I need time to figure out where I am going to go and what I am going to do, and he said I can have as long as I need. I think I will start really going through things and packing and will aim to be in an apartment by June. I could move faster, but I have a LOT of stuff to sort through and kind of want to sock money away for a few months. He said he could go stay at his parents if I need him to for a few months.
Right now, I feel very sad but also pleasantly numb. I know that won't last. I actually don't have another session with my therapist scheduled until a week from this Tueaday, so I am going to have to call Monday to get on her cancellation list for the week. I honestly had started to doubt my ability to actually leave, so it's good he forced my hand this way, but now the actual work begins, and I would be lyin if I said I was not completely freaked out about this.
Re: So. Looks like we will be heading into meditation...
I'm glad to hear things are amicable....so far. I don't mean this in a snarky way at all, but you need to protect and prepare yourself for yours STBXH to flip a switch at any time. I'm not saying he will, but you don't want to be caught off gaurd if all the sudden he decides he doesn't want to give you that $10k or he wants you out of the house tomorrow. Just be ready!
Good luck on the road that lies ahead!