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Another online dating question
I'm sending out a few messages here and there. If you're on match.com, and you see you're not exactly what the guy is looking for, would you still bother sending a message? Like, if I'm a little heavier, or if he's looking for single or divorced and I'm separated.
The day I left was just my beginning.
Re: Another online dating question
Really??? I think you're exaggerating quite a bit. Many people answer the typical redundant online dating questions repeatedly on here...but to be honest, asking about online dating basics on here reminds me of the knot days when someone would post on the bridal party board w/ a basic same-first-time-posting post of "Can I have a big bridal party and can they wear different dresses!?!?" So, those questions are basic and people get sick of answering them. On a typical day, if you scroll through a few pages, I'm sure there's something asking a basic online dating question that is similar.
To OP, I would message any person you feel like you'd hit it off with.....I don't message men that just say separated because I'm 3+ years out of my divorce and I'm not interested in being anybody's rebound/first girl he's dating out of the divorce/possible mixed up in the negativity of the divorce proceedings.
Where did I say I had asked online dating questions? Oh wait, I didn't.
Well I guess it's a good thing rak is part of the clique, then. And for some people there's no difference between divorced and separated. My STBX and I couldn't be more "done" if we tried, but there's a 12m waiting period to deal with.
Rak, I have done this a few times. I have a pretty average build (size 6/8) but definitely not slender or athletic. I usually skip the ones who have those listed because I am happy as I am and don't want to start out feeling inadequate. I do occasionally message people who say "have kids: No" for their preference and say that it looked like we have a lot in common, but I have kids, and if it's something they are flexible about, I'd like to chat. They almost always reply. Two have pissed me off though because we have. EVERYTHING IN COMMON but their last girlfriend (and one's ex wife) had kids and was crazy, so they are reluctant. Makes me want to punch out all these bitches giving single moms a bad name!
I figure at least I know now, right? No harm, no foul, it's just an email.
Well.......... her post was about online dating questions, you said good luck getting answers and I assumed you meant it was within that vein. Don't be such a sarcastic PITA about it--my conclusion was a logical one.
The key words in your response are "I ASSUMED".
Yeah, no sh*t. Also, another key word is "LOGICAL."
I don't understand why you had to make an issue out of me saying I didn't agree with your comment about not getting answers to questions. All I said was I thought you were exaggerating and explained a logical reason why perhaps people might not get answers. You're obviously holding onto some sort of bitterness about getting answers. You've only posted a few times on the Nest and a few of those posts have been in this particular post, so I'm interested in where all of your answerless questions are??
It doesn't hurt to try. The worst thing that can happen is no answer.
Also to this new AE, I hope it's not jakesmom :-(
Don't know what happened in the middle of this thread, but I'd say go for it.
There were a few people I contacted who weren't EXACTLY what I was looking for, or for whom I wasn't an EXACT match, but if I felt like we had enough it common, I'd send a message. I'd say it was about 50/50 in terms of response. I think the divorce question was kind of absolute for people though, as stupid as I feel that to be.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
I had to respond to this. I am still very new to the board and I don't post very often nor am I part of the "clique" but I have gotten some great responses when I have posted questions. I don't think its very fair of you to come out and say something like that with 5 whole posts under your belt.
hey nameless, maybe comin on the board and actin like a little tw@t is not the best way to get people to respond to your posts.
rak, message people if you think they look cool! You never know, and you aren't losing anything by sending them a message
Really? You guys are twats on the reg, what's the difference?
The difference is that we don't get our feelings hurt about it and act like whiny toddlers.
Yes, you're all perfect little princesses. Funny how you ended up on this board.
And you're here because? Bye now!
Oh, go choke on a diick.
Xoxo,
Unashamed Twat Princess
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
From another fairly newb...THIS.
Rak is part of the "in-crowd"
I never sent out messages, I just waited to see who would contact me. That's not at all because I think there is anything wrong with the woman contacting the man, it's just that I wouldn't generally approach a guy in real life so I tried to treat my online dating experience the way I would my real life.
Having said that, I'll answer the question the other way around. When guys contacted me who weren't exactly what I was looking for, it depended on what the quality was that was a bit "off". If he was 5'8" and I said I was looking for 5'9"...no biggee, as long as I liked everything else, I'd reply. If he was separated I would absolutely not respond. Ok, so my point is, go for it because you never know what is a "dealbreaker" for someone as opposed to just something that he had to make a choice on when filling out their profile. The worst that can happen is he doesn't respond, right?
Liubot? Jaksmom?
Obviously this is someone who's been here and not liked the responses they received. You're too new to have posted a signigicant amount of times and not gotten responses. Everyone here is very supportive. Sometimes people tell it like it is and don't sugar coat things, but that's not mean. That's just being honest. And most of the people are very nice.
And Rak - if you're interested go ahead and send out a message. Can't hurt and you never know if something will come from it.
The only time I won't send a message is if someone says they're looking for someone without kids. I have a kid and she's my whole world, so I'm not going to be the least bit interested in someone who doesn't understand that or isn't accepting of it.
FlittyFud=Liubot
Oh I must have missed that. I totally thought it was.
I think it doesn't hurt to send a friendly message.
As for the AE troll: ::yawns:: not even a good job at all.