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What do u do after a fight?

Hi everyone. What do you do after a fight with your DH or so? Since being married, not being able to tell him to leave when I'm mad has been really hard. So instead I do something else that is probably immature and emotionally unhealthy... What do you do?

Me 33. DH 32. TTC Since 6/2011. 12/2012-m/c, CP. DH: MFI. CCT/HSG/day 3 blood work-all nl. IVF#1 ER- 8/7/12, ET- 8/10. beta 8/25 neg, I did not respond as expected. AMH: 0.88. IVF#2 BCP-10/19. Micro flare Lupron-Nov: It's a bust. IVF#3 Planned for Feb '13 with a long lupron protocol ON OUR OWN!!! BFP- 1/12/13. Yay! EDD 9/18, now EDD 9/25

Re: What do u do after a fight?

  • Did you live together when you told him to leave prior?
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  • If you need space, why don't you just say "I need you to leave me alone until I cool off" and then leave yourself, or go to a different room and do something until you've sufficiently calmed down. He doesn't have to leave your home for you to request space and then for you to take it.
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  • I know you want someone to ask, so what's the something else?
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  • I go into the bedroom.  He knows not to follow me.  Sometimes, instead of doing that, I go for a drive.  I echo what Broc said.  What do you do that you don't think is healthy?  How old are you both?  How long have you been married?
  • We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

  • imageHayleyCks87:

    We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

    Hmm

     

    H is the one who needs space.  He goes into the bedroom and I leave him alone.  He doesn't have to leave the house for you to have space.  

  • imageJoJo+Leo:
    imageHayleyCks87:

    We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

    Hmm

     

    H is the one who needs space.  He goes into the bedroom and I leave him alone.  He doesn't have to leave the house for you to have space.  

    She's a troll from the bump.  

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  • imageHayleyCks87:

    We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

    Well, that's because you can't fight with a person that only exists in your mind.

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  • I clean the blood off my knuckles and carry on with my business.
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  • I go into a different room after telling H I need some space and time to think. I usually do something productive like fold laundry.
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  • imageMamasaurus:
    I clean the blood off my knuckles and carry on with my business.

    Yes

    we just tell each other we need space and go to different rooms. Then we discuss it later or the next day when we're calm and have some perspective. 

    I'd love to know how you deal with fighting though, please share. 

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  • image+SMACE+:
    imageHayleyCks87:

    We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

    Well, that's because you can't fight with a person that only exists in your mind.

    I'm so glad you post over here sometimes. LOL.

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  • imageESDReturns:
    image+SMACE+:
    imageHayleyCks87:

    We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

    Well, that's because you can't fight with a person that only exists in your mind.

    I'm so glad you post over here sometimes. LOL.

    Me too. I heart SMACE. 

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • he goes to his office and I go to mine in about 20 minutes he comes and says he is sorry and we talk it out. 
  • image+SMACE+:
    imageHayleyCks87:

    We have never fought, sorry.

    Maybe you all should seek counseling? 

    Well, that's because you can't fight with a person that only exists in your mind.

     

    LOL 

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  • Thanks for the laugh gals.

    Yeah, all I do is leave to the bedroom. I ignore him for a little too long. He'll apologize the next day and we'll talk it out. I feel pretty normal now.

    No, we didn't live together before getting married and we've been married less than one year.

    Me 33. DH 32. TTC Since 6/2011. 12/2012-m/c, CP. DH: MFI. CCT/HSG/day 3 blood work-all nl. IVF#1 ER- 8/7/12, ET- 8/10. beta 8/25 neg, I did not respond as expected. AMH: 0.88. IVF#2 BCP-10/19. Micro flare Lupron-Nov: It's a bust. IVF#3 Planned for Feb '13 with a long lupron protocol ON OUR OWN!!! BFP- 1/12/13. Yay! EDD 9/18, now EDD 9/25
  • Ashley, how are you and hubbie doing?
    Me 33. DH 32. TTC Since 6/2011. 12/2012-m/c, CP. DH: MFI. CCT/HSG/day 3 blood work-all nl. IVF#1 ER- 8/7/12, ET- 8/10. beta 8/25 neg, I did not respond as expected. AMH: 0.88. IVF#2 BCP-10/19. Micro flare Lupron-Nov: It's a bust. IVF#3 Planned for Feb '13 with a long lupron protocol ON OUR OWN!!! BFP- 1/12/13. Yay! EDD 9/18, now EDD 9/25
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