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Rough week.....vent

This week has started off rough.  My mom called me at midnight last night to tell me my stepdad had filed for divorce.  She had no clue and felt blindsided.  I really dont know why because they had filed before 1.5 years ago and reconciled and I felt like this would happen.  Ugh.  I just feel selfish because I dont know if I can fully be there for her completely after going through their last divorce process (they basically went all the way through for 8 months) and my own.

Im going to suck it up but I just feel selfish and like I dont even want to deal with the drama that is about to ensue.....

Re: Rough week.....vent

  • That is really rough and it totally does suck! I think instead of looking at it as having to be there for her, you two can be there for each other. I'm sorry, what a bad way to start the week. 
  • I am sorry, your mom's divorce seems to pull the trigger of your own divorce emotions.

    I like how the other pp worded it, that you both can be there for each other.

  • Thanks.  The problem is Im already divorced and have gone through the whole process of anger, grief, counseling, etc. so Im just more stressed on how she is going to get through it.  Shes definitely not as strong as me in terms of independence so I feel like she is going to rely on me a lot.

    Doesnt help that my stepdad is a major DI@# so Im sure its going to be a battle and a half......

     

  • I'm so sorry.  I hope things go well for your mom.

    So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.

  • imageemma245:

    This week has started off rough.  My mom called me at midnight last night to tell me my stepdad had filed for divorce.  She had no clue and felt blindsided.  I really dont know why because they had filed before 1.5 years ago and reconciled and I felt like this would happen.  Ugh.  I just feel selfish because I dont know if I can fully be there for her completely after going through their last divorce process (they basically went all the way through for 8 months) and my own.

    Im going to suck it up but I just feel selfish and like I dont even want to deal with the drama that is about to ensue.....

     

    This is tough for you and her. Hang in there and be supportive as you can to her with boundaries because you need to think of your mental health too.

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