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Did I do the right thing. NHFS.
Out of the blue I got a msg on FB frOm an old college roomate. She gave me her # and asked me to call her, she said she had something of a time sensitive nature to ask me. Mind you I haven't spoken to her in 15 years. We have said hi on FB but that is it. So yesterday I called her and long story short she says she has cancer and needs money for treatment. I said sure, send me an acct number and I'll mail a check. She says no, she needs the money ASAP and can I send her a money gram. I said I was on the way to the airport and didn't have access to a computer. She said I could send it by my smartphone. She then blew up my phone for the next hour leaving msgs and texts asking for a confirmation number to pick up the money. I couldn't answer because we were boarding and passengers get all pissy when the crew is in their phone!
I didn't send money nor am I planning to. Im in Calgary so my phone is off. I did get a text from a mutual friend who is an attorney asking if I was sending the money. I wasn't able to read the whole text but I got the sense that she thinks it is legit. I feel bad but all I can think of is if someone were telling me this story and wanted advice on whether to send money or not I would laugh and say hell no.
So am I a heartless wench?
Re: Did I do the right thing. NHFS.
PR's
5k 10/15/11 30:34 9:51 pace
8k 9/24/11 55:20 11:08 pace
10k 11/24/11 11:24 pace
10 mile 4/25/10 2:03:54
I agree. Especially since you had not spoken to this woman in 15 years. Are you sure it was even her? Did you recognize her voice?
I don't see how needing money for cancer treatments could be THAT time sensitive that she would need the money straight away to the point that she's bombarding you with calls, texts and voice mails. My sister-in-law is going through chemo and radiation right now and they haven't even begun to discuss payment. They said that would be taken care of after the treatments were finished. I'm not sure if that's how it is in all, most or very few cases, but that's my personal experience with the situation.
I would not send the money, but my college roommate was a compulsive liar, so i wouldn't trust anything she told me anyway.
The one issue that I noticed with your original post is that you told her you WOULD send the money, but now you aren't.
If I knew I wasn't going to send any $ then I would have just told her no.
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
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Yeah, that sounds very fishy to me, I wouldn't send any either.
I'm sorry, but who asks someone that they haven't talked to in 15 years for money, and then demands it right away? Very strange.
This is what I was thinking.
Adventures in My Kitchen
It sounds like she needed the money for something other than cancer treatment. Could she possibly be in to drugs or gambling? Or deep in debt?
In any case, you're not heartless. You're smart.
Last Race: California International Marathon - December 4, 2011 - 3:29:18, 7:59 pace
Next Race: ARun for Young 5K - January 7, 2012
PR's
5k 10/15/11 30:34 9:51 pace
8k 9/24/11 55:20 11:08 pace
10k 11/24/11 11:24 pace
10 mile 4/25/10 2:03:54
PR's
5k 10/15/11 30:34 9:51 pace
8k 9/24/11 55:20 11:08 pace
10k 11/24/11 11:24 pace
10 mile 4/25/10 2:03:54
Yes,I'm smiling...I'm a marathoner!
Bloggy McBloggerson
CO Nestie Award Winner-Prettiest Brain-Back to Back!
2011 Bests
5K-22:49 10K-47:38 Half Mary-1:51:50
2012 Race Report
1/1-New Year's 5K-22:11
2/11-Sweetheart Classic 4-mile-29:49
3/24-Coulee Chase 5K-21:40
5/6-Colorado Marathon-4:08:30
5/28-Bolder Boulder 10K
Whatever you do don't send her a check! With your account number she can withdraw money. I think you are protecting YOURSELF from a scam by not sending her money.
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GO! St. Louis Half Marathon-2:32:13
Omaha Half Marathon 9.23.12
In my opinion, if she has cancer and/or is legitimately sick and asked for your financial assistance after not being in contact with you for 15+ years, than I think her response would (should) be gracious and humbled by your offer to send her money. I am naive and like to see the best in people though and can't understand her demanding that you send money in the format she wants ASAP.