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NSOR Friend Vent
It is super slow in here lately! Also As such I'm going to vent about one of my friendsthis is really long. Sorry!
It was her birthday on Monday. she insisted on making the biggest deal ever about her birthday which included an overnight at a casino (during Easter weekend) with full events on both days. She refused to move the weekend to a different weekend and expected her friends to forgo any Easter family plans because it was her 30th birthday. On her official birthday she wanted me to take a day off of work to go with her to a local water park and then plan her a dinner. I said I would.
I emailed her a week before her birthday to confirm her Monday plans. She wouldn't really commit to anything. Then I ended up getting the flu and wasn't able to attend her weekend, but was still on for Monday. She said she understood but was super melodramatic that lots of people had cancelled and basically flipped out and was super angry. Note: four people still attended the weekend.
So on Thursday I try to firm up plans for Monday, does she want to do waterpark, dinner, what? She doesn't respond or commit. In talking to a mutual friend who planned the casino weekend (we'll call her G), G informs me that she has planned a day for friend on Monday, just the two of them (umm WTF?) and they will meet up with me and others for Happy Hour, maybe. They still didn't have any firm plans. An email was suppose to go out on Sunday. It doesn't. I check in on Monday morning. Still no plans set.
That afternoon I get asked out on a date for 8. I accept because I don't even know if anything is happening. Later G texts me and tell me her and friend want me to go to dinner with them at 7. I say I have another obligation (no specifics) later in the evening and was under the impression it was a happy hour. I said I could do dinner at 6. Apparently that wasn't acceptable. G asks me what my plans are and that I should cancel them because friend's feelings were hurt. I just told her friend could take it up with me, and I have from 5-8 available to celebrate. No one has talked to me since.
First of all I'm super offended that friend essentially ditched me on Monday for other friend and is being such a prima donna that I should apparently hold her entire birthday open on the chance that she "might" want to do something. I seriously need new friends.
Re: NSOR Friend Vent
Ohhhmygawd is she a 6 year old princess? That's like MTV's Sweet 16 bash level of birthday neediness.
I pretty much have some drinks and cake with my friends on my birthday. I didn't actually do anything except be born.
Ok, so 30 is a bit of a milestone, or hump! But that doesn't mean people should have to devote days to you, nor should they have to give up a holiday with their family, nor should you expect them to be available without letting them know.
Riiiight??? I mean yea I wanted to celebrate with her. But this is out of hand and I quickly became very not into her birthday. I should also mention I planned a vacation with her in June to Vegas to see Garth Brooks, as that is what she really wanted to do for her birthday. But that's apparently not good enough because it's not taking place on her actual birthday...
Wow your friend is a selfish brat. In fact, she sounds like my XH with the whole "not good enough for my birthday".
I think you need to find new friends. Sorry she sucks.
I agree! I actually have met a new group of single girls that I'm really enjoying! They are pretty drama free. It's a nice change.
Dude. This sucks. Drop these jerks.
Seriously, changing friend groups was one of the best things I've done for myself recently. I found people with whom I have much more in common.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
To not talk to you over something like this is crazy sauce.
But talk about crazy birthday celebrations. I have a friend who when they celebrate birthdays, they have a theme, dress according to the theme and hire a professional photographer to follow them around all night.
OMG! That is incredibly nuts!
Are they the type of people to hold grudges? Since youre going to this concert anyway I would just stay cordial until then and see how it goes. For me, I would be uncomfortable wasting time on a friendship with someone who acted like this, but I also refuse to engage in dramatic bullshit so if I wanted to stay friends I would carry on being friendly like the whole thing never happened.
my MOH gave me the silent treatment the day of my wedding and I sent her an email a week later completely ignoring the whole thing ever happened. Our friendship will never be back to normal but she quickly figured out that I was not going to engage and has chosen to be friendly and nice and also pretend like it never happened.
Oh yes. It's quite dramatic. I'm expecting an email any day now telling me what a horrible friend I am, how I'm a selfish person, how awesome everyone else is etc., etc. I thought about sending just a normal email but I know that will just incite the ridiculous email back. I'm just going to ignore it and refuse to engage if she gets dramatic. It's just the two of us going to the concert so I'm pretty sure she'll just cancel the trip. Which is awesome considering she still owes me for her airplane ticket. I'm pretty sure this friendship has run it's course. It's actually really nice not hearing from her and her drama.