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pole
While the Beetle is in the shop I've been taking Will to preschool on the bus. At the bus stop by his school there's been what I'm pretty sure is a homeless guy - he's pretty dirty and ragged looking - but he's super friendly and the kids always talk with him a little while I'm unfolding the stroller and getting my *** situated. Evie and I usually walk for a few hours while Will is in class, and I thought about maybe getting him a sandwich or something while we were wandering around today, but he's never asked us for food or money or anything, so would that be super presumptuous, to just give a guy a sandwich unasked for?[Poll]
Re: pole
My boss gave a homeless guy a sandwich once and he threw it on the ground and said, "I want some booze lady, who needs a sandwich?" So she stopped giving anything to homeless people after that.
It sounds like your guy wouldn't do that....but I don't think I personally would presume to know what he wants.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Now I want a sammich.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
I love this approach. It takes into account the possibility that he isn't homeless, but just dresses like crap.
I may go with the Cali approach next Tuesday. I should have a car by then, but sometimes Evie and I walk by the bus stop anyway when we're oot and aboot.
We've been walking in the neighborhood long enough now that the local homeless guys and sign spinners and random old people recognize us, so now we have a lot of people stopping to say hello while we're walking. It's kind of nice, no one in our apartment complex talks to anyone they don't know.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
I've done this a couple times. Usually I'll get two sandwiches, then when I'm talking to the person I'll say something like "Hey, I got 2 sandwiches but now I don't think I'm gonna eat the other one. Would you like it?"
You're awesome for being so generous.
Aw, you're such a sweetheart Noisy!
I like the Cali/NBree approach. Find a way to be casual/breezy about it, as opposed to walking up awkwardly and being like "I got you this sandwich... because you're poor."
I used to be better about being nice to homeless people. I got a little more wary after I had kids, since they're with me most of the time, but this guy just seems nice and friendly in a non-creepy way.
There was this homeless guy, Sarge, that came into the coffee shop I used to work at for a small coffee every now and then. He lost his legs in Vietnam and was in a wheelchair, but he was so speedy in that thing. I used to see him zipping down hills in Seattle. He was super nice. Sometimes if he was having a good day panhandling he'd get an oatmeal raisin cookie with his cup of coffee. We saved broken cookies that we couldn't sell and held on to them in case he came in. A few years after I left that job one of my friends that still worked there told me that he got hit by a bus and he died. It just seemed so colossally unfair, you know? This guy lost his legs in war, he was homeless, and then his life ends because a bus didn't see him crossing the street while it was making a right turn. Anyway, I always think of him when I see homeless people. Maybe it's just someone down on their luck and a friendly face could help brighten their day. (Of course, maybe it's someone that's crazy, which is why I've been a little more wary since having the kids.)
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Annie nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
You are the worst person in the world, Noisy.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
No! My dad is the worst person! MY DAD! He and my stepmom also locked my brother and I in a room one weekend when his friends were visiting. They brought us our meals in the room and left us there with a TV. I didn't think about it much at the time because I was six, but come on, how royally fuccked up is that? "Our friends don't really like kids, so you guys are just going to stay in here okay?" And why would you invite them over the one weekend the month you have your kids?
Let's have a Seattle GTG and TP his house and bleach "ANNIE" into his lawn.
I picture Lt. Dan as Sarge. I did not see the bus coming. Jerk.
Also, I have twice been rejected by homeless people when I attempted to give them food. Once, it was a guy that hung out in Malibu, he rejected a Subway sandwich because he didn't want charity. Maybe he was actually an actor researching a role or something, I don't know. The second time, in Mission Valley (he was at the corner by the BevMo) this guy had a sign that said Will Work for Food. So, I went to the food court at the Target mall bought him some Burger King, I looped around so that I could give him the food. I pulled up and said "This is for you" and tried to hand him the food. He told me "I don't eat that kind of food." Oh. My. Bad.
Usually, though, the individuals panhandling (with the signs on street corners - is that the right term, panhandling?) are thankful when I give them whatever bar I bought in bulk at Costco to keep in my car to hand out to people I see that might need something to eat. Water too.
Mr M is pretty sure he's been mistaken for a homeless person multiple times. The first time he took the sandwich or whatever before he went home and looked in the mirror and went "OH!SHIIT"
Then another time he was picking up some burritos for him and Bug. He didn't want to use his debit card, so he was digging in his pockets for change and the lady behind him offered to pay. He explained he just was trying not to use his card and she gets a little misty-eyed: "Just take it, son."
I'm evil so this story makes me laugh more than cringe.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Great idea on the water and the bulk stuff. I'm definitely going to get a case of bottled water to keep in the car to give out in the scorching summer months here.
Just watch out for the ones who want to chew on your lady parts.
I think I've posted about Jeremy, the guy near my work before. People leave him stuff at his "spot." Well, a few weeks ago there was a massive fire in the wooded area where he was sleeping and he, among others, lost everything. It makes me so sad to see him sitting on milk crates now, starting from scratch again, because he had previously been given a fold-up chair to sit on. Stupid dry weather.
Anyway, I like Cali's approach. I like helping out in little ways when I can. Once I was going into Dunkin Donuts and there was a lady outside panhandling. I didn't have any cash/change so I just said I didn't have anything and as I went in, she jokingly said "Well can you get me a Diet Pepsi then?" And as I passed the cooler I was like, you know what, it's $1.79. Why not? So I got it and when I went back out, she was talking to someone so I walked up and handed her the soda and the look of shock and confusion and then just happiness on her face made me want to buy her 1500 Diet Pepsis. As I was walking away, I heard her say to the person she was talking to that no one had ever done that for her before and it'd been so long since she'd had one.
So you get him a sandwich! YEAH!
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
Thank you Mr. Mouse for looking like a hobo and brightening up this thread.
That is one thing about Portlanders -- sometimes you have a hard time telling the homeless from the non-homeless. We all smell the same.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
OOOH, I have a feel-good story, too.
I was at Wal-Mart a couple years ago around Christmas/Thanksgiving. The place was packed with long lines. I got to the register and the cashier was mentioning to another employee that she needed a break, but it would be awhile and she was so thirsty. So, I asked her what she liked to drink and grabbed one out of the cooler and bought it for her. She was so happy and it was so worth it.
Oooh, yeah! Let me bit them titties!
This post has made me sad cry and laugh cry.
I almost never give anything to homeless people, at least in my area. I live in a very, VERY suburban area of Orange County. And at our grocery store complex, there are always people there with signs. It confuses me. I never see homeless people in the subdivisions. It makes me think these people are NOT homeless and are taking a bus here because maybe they get good money in our area? I'm probably overthinking it.
Plus, I've been to LA and seen real homeless people. It makes me feel like a jerk to be so suspicious, but I am.