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Success with Counseling?
I've never posted on this board before so..hi! Didn't think this was appropriate for my birth month board so hopefully it's ok for me to post here.
I'm 39 weeks pregnant. Reeeeeally insanely pregnant. Any day now. So H and I have been having issues for several reasons that I won't completely bore you with (I have problems being completely honest with him about little things and try to solve them on my own. And he's developing inappropriate relationships with co workers. So basically, neither of us trusts the other at this point and really haven't the whole 5 years we've been together). I've been having issues with the pregnancy and spent all of yesterday at the hospital so my dr could rule out what he thought might be a pulmonary embolism.
After getting home and putting the kids to bed (two are mine, one is his, this is our first together) he was acting funny and just kinda out of nowhere I said "Are you planning on leaving me after the baby's born?" To my surprise, his answer was Maybe. He had been thinking about it and he's still not sure. Well long story short(er) we talked for hours and we either need to go through counseling or quit. I've been divorced once already. I know that look. That talk. When one person has already made up their mind but they're too big of a weenie to just say it.
Has anyone had success with counseling? Is it worth trying? Is there any coming back from having one foot out the door?
Re: Success with Counseling?
I think it works and know people who it worked for when you're going to work on communication and understand one another better, but before it gets to the point where one party is seriously considering divorce.
I think a lot of people wait so long to go that either one party is checked out or the marriage is damaged to the point where it can never be whole, only patched back together with duct tape.