Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Dropped the "d" bomb on my family!
I had been freaking out about having to tell my parents and sister that my H and I are divorcing, but I decided to do it today because I am seeing my therapist Tuesday, so that would give me time to process it and be able to talk to her about it. As everyone expected when I told them I was so nervous to do this, my family was nothing but supportive. They were not totally shocked either, which I thought might be the case, as it was obvious we were unhappy. I was unsure if I was going to tell them about my H's affair, but I did, and they were awesome in their reaction. My dad offered to help me buy a house if I wanted to do that (I want to rent until my consumer debt is paid off, so I am going to stick to that plan), and they offered me money for furniture so I could keep my e-fund intact. They were really great about it and said exactly what I needed to hear.
I am starting to get really excited about starting over. I know that there is still work to do, and I also have a variety of other issues that will keep me in therapy for a while (disordered eating and intimacy issues, to name a couple of things), but I have taken a step toward my life being SO MUCH BETTER than it would have been if I ended up staying married to my H.
Re: Dropped the "d" bomb on my family!
I'm glad you have so much support and a positive outlook!
I remember dreading telling my family too. I think I told my grandparents on Christmas! WTF?!? lol
I was just put in a stuck spot where I either had to lie or tell them.
For me, telling my family was the worst part of anything. They were nothing but supportive, but the anticipation of that conversation nearly made me insane.
I'm so happy to hear your family is there for you and offering to help you in the ways that they are. I'm also glad to hear that you're getting excited about starting over!