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Is it weird? Dating related...
I'm not going to lie. I like military men. I want to date a military man. If you were single today, would you date a guy or girl (whatever floats your boat) in the military?
I like the lifestyle. What can I say?
Re: Is it weird? Dating related...
I can't say. I don't particularly love this lifestyle and I certainly didn't choose DH because he was in the Military. We connected over other things.
Next time I may go for a safe accountant. Someone who doesnt have to move all the time.
I get what you're saying. I would miss parts of the lifestyle, and definitely miss that ass in uniform.
Edited because I forgot that ass is also an approved word now!! Hollllller!
My ex SIL remarried military. My friend remarried military. Ojo remarried military. 'Stan remarried military.
And for you h0neybadger = ASS!!!
I think the sexiest thing about MH's service is his own pride in his work. How he really does take pride in things that SEEM like no big deal to some, like absolutely not even having a sip of alcohol when he is on standby, following things that I hear/see other Airman treat as "stupid regs", etc. The importance he places on being a GOOD Airman and an honest man (he was always a good, honest man but in the uniform it is like a panty dropper on steroids for me) makes me giddy. Not that it isn't frustrating when for the umpteenth week straight he is home a few hours late because no one else wanted to stay and make sure *** at work was wrapped up before dippin' out, I just love him, and his service.
And who doesn't love that first kiss after a separation even if it is only a few months!
If it's not a requirement, then I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I dated a lot of military guys, but I also dated other guys. I live in a huge military town. It's either military guys, art school guys, surfer dudes, shrimpers or rich snobs. I tend to like country guys, so it was usually the military guys who caught my attention. Plus, they have jobs.
When I say I dated a lot of guys, I don't mean I was whoring around. I had fun in my single days. If I wasn't serious with someone, I went on dates with people. I honestly think that's how it should be. If you are single and a nice guy asks you to dinner, go. Go have drinks with someone else the next night as long as you aren't sleeping with them all.
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Obviously I married another jar, and H and XH weren't the only Marines I dated either. I live in Oceanside. I don't like hippies, surfer dudes who smoke weed, etc. I knew I wanted to be a Marine. I dated a couple sort of civilians (a firefighter and a cop), and I would have loved to have dated a teacher back then, but it boils down to the fact that I really love my country, and for me that was something I wanted to share, because otherwise my mate would think I was crazy, honestly. I don't know who else I would have dated in my early twenties around here. That's pretty much all there is when you go out here. I was in school with people younger than me in general, and I worked in places that either catered to Marines/Sailors (bars) or worked with all women, or all people much older than me. H wants to teach when he gets out, because service to others is important to him as a lifetime thing.
I have been called a tag chaser. I don't really care. Generally it's by wives who married their HS sweethearts and don't come from military towns. That's not a dig at Lace. It's not really a dig at all, it just is what it is. I didn't marry the guy I dated in HS, though I married A guy I was a teenager with. That was the wrong choice for me. H was the right one. H was who I was looking for in every relationship prior to him. His service before self mentality, just who he is in general, he's a really good man. I actually met him about a week after I swore off dating completely. I was moving, so was he, he was separating (from the military, not a wife), we never thought we'd be a thing. And here we are.
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I can see how it might be the case for someone (anyone, not just Lemon or Stan) that the qualities they tend to look for in a mate are often present in people who are members of the military. That would definitely make sense to me.
And as far as lifestyle goes it also takes a certain type of person to like and want to be involved with a military type of lifestyle. Some people like moving around a lot, traveling, adventuring, having the opportunity to really develop themselves as an individual, as part of a group and in a relationship. It's 1:30am did that make sense?
I'm not saying don't date, but your relationship was really f*d up. I wish more than anything in the world that I had taken some time off when I finally left my XH. I worry that psychologically, you are looking for your husband again, just not as an abusive d-bag. Please please take some time. I also hope you don't feel patronized. I don't know you after all, just what you post here.
This. I wasn't willing to entertain a serious relationship with my now-H unless he agreed that, following the end of his current service obligation, the decision to continue with the military ot not was jointly mine and his. In exchange, I agreed to put my career second for the six years he had left in the obligation. This is actually a bigger sacrifice than it sounds, given the fact that my career required more years of training and massive debt (and yields a higher salary). Two years into the contract, neither of us regret the agreement, but I'd never look to make that kind of deal again. I married H despite his job, not because of it.
I feel the need to point out that one of these things is not like the others.
I think she means she's AD.
Prior to meeting my husband, I never even thought of the military.... it never crossed my mind! I can honestly say I had no idea what I was getting into. Haha! I do love moving all the time.... but, I don't know.. I guess this question is hard for me to answer because I can't imagine myself with anyone other than my husband.
Funny looking back, several of my high school exes are military! How weird is that? We didn't come from a military town either but 1 is a Marine and 2 are Army! so weird.