Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Update on my date - and WWSO do?
I had a date with a guy from Match on Friday night. We had only texted leading up to the date but our personalities seemed to mesh. The date went well - we got along in real life just as well and I had fun. BUT I feel as if I was duped by a case of old pictures. The guy was probably 40 pounds heavier in person than he was in his pictures which meant that I wasn't physically attracted to him.
He wants to go out again and I wouldn't mind hanging out with him but there's no physical attraction on my end. Do I go out with him again and give him a chance, or do I just be honest with him and tell him that I'm not feeling physical chemistry?
Re: Update on my date - and WWSO do?
I would be honest and tell him you had fun on the date, but you just don't feel there is chemistry between the two of you.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Yup. That's what I'd do, too.
On a side note, I don't understand the point of putting up pics that aren't representative of what you look like at the present. I mean, I understand wanting to display yourself in the best possible light, but people are always going to notice things like a 40 lb or 10 year discrepancy. Better to just be up front.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Nope, I wouldn't give it another chance because physical attraction isn't everything, but it IS important. Say his pics were outdated and you realized he was heavier than you originally thought but you were still attracted to him? I'd say go for it. But you said you were not so I say it's a no go.
Plus it would irk me somewhat thinking that he deliberately tried to put pics up that weren't a real representation of how he looks. I never understand why people do this. When you meet it will be apparent what you look like so why try to hide it?
This, exactly!
ITA.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Yes, this.
Thanks, Ladies. I totally agree. I was irked because obviously the pics weren't recent and obviously I noticed. I was trying not to be shallow, but physical attraction is part of the picture.
I'll be honest with him about not feeling the chemistry there.