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Another Saturday Night Date (disaster)
He wanted to do dinner AND a movie and stupidly I agreed. I should've cancelled Friday night when I was getting several texts to which I responded that I'm really busy now, then he tried to call and I did not answer (was scrubbing the kitchen floor with bleach while the kids were running around the dining room) and then I received a text that said 'oh, you are too busy to take a phone call?'. That really rubbed me the wrong way. Saturday I also got way too many texts and when I ignored them for a bit he'd text 'Everything ok?'. Yes, I'm fine if you would extract yourself from my butt......
Saturday night - when I got out of the car the first thing I noticed was he is NOT 5'8", I'm 5'2" and he was maybe 5'4"? Regardless of the height it bothers me that he lied in his profile. I also felt zero attraction/chemistry. We ate dinner, conversation was just not flowing. Unfortunately it was a place where you could buy movie passes there (near the theater) at a discount so he bought two and added it to the bill. We then had an HOUR and 40 minutes to kill so we walked around. It was awkward, he kept trying to put his arm around me and I was not comfortable. Finally I got up the nerve to end the date right there, apologized for cutting the night short, said I'm sorry I'm just not interested and paid him for the tickets that he had purchased.
I pulled into my driveway and got the first text. I was on the phone with a friend and got a few more, then a 'U ok?'. I responded then, "yes, I'm fine. Goodnight!"
Since then I've received FIVE MORE texts that I have not answered. He has taken Stage 5 clinger to a whole new level. The last one was last night asking if I was awake. Nothing today.... YET.
DD2 11.17.08
Re: Another Saturday Night Date (disaster)
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
The "oh, you are too busy to take a phone call" text response is definitely a red flag considering the situation and not yet meeting him in person. Your guts were spot on.
You dodge a bullet there, not only he is a clinger, he seems to have potential as a controlling abuser.
Wow! I'm not dating, but this kind of scenario terrifies the apcray out of me. I cannot believe he's still trying to connect with you. Dude, get a hint!
And for my money, the date might have been a disaster, but you handled it perfectly!
DD2 11.17.08
omg, I feel for you
Personally I am never ever again scheduling a dinner for a first date, let alone dinner and a movie. I think I'm going to start meeting guys for 5 min in a parking lot or something and THEN deciding if I want to actually go on a date with them.
OMG!
This is a great example of why I keep first dates short!