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Question for those who are in LTR
A text from my aunt just got me thinking about this one. She said "so do you think you are falling in love or is it too soon to tell". I haven't responded yet but it got me thinking about the whole concept of falling in love.
For those who are in LTRs (or engaged, remarried, etc), how long did you and your SO date before you started feeling like you were falling in love, or even said the "L" word?
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Re: Question for those who are in LTR
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3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
We said "I love you" after 8 months of dating and approx 6 months of being exclusive.
I probably started to have stronger feelings for him about the 5th month of being exclusive.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I said it to D about 3 months in... when I was still in the googley eye phase, but I meant it... and it's only grown deeper since then. He just said it, so about 6-7 months in. Before he told me, he said he had wanted to say it earlier but really wanted to make sure he meant it. Also, towards the end of his marriage, he said his ex-wife said it to him all the time and when he didn't say it back, she would start a fight and pretty much force him to say it to her.
Once I heard that, it helped me understand a lot of things so I didn't bring it up and stopped saying it to him so he wouldn't feel any pressure... he also said that once he told me that, it helped him realize some things to help him more comfortable saying it... so when he did say it, it was SO worth it. Now he says it w/o me saying it first and that is so lovely to hear!
Thanks for the responses ladies. I have been seeing J over a month now so thoughts of "I could be falling for this guy" have definitely gone through my mind, but I think everyone's pace for when they actually fall for someone and then when they get to the point of verbalizing it are different.
I have been in situations where the other person has said it prematurely and I feel like it really sours the whole experience and cheapens the meaning. That being said, when you know, you just know.
You know this about me, but I know sometimes people have the same question and instead of reposting, they read someone else's posts for answers
We met the last weekend in October. We could only see each other about 1-3 times a week because of my schedule with ds. He went on a week-long business trip at the end of January. We did the "I love yous" when he got back. So that was about 3 months in.
The entire month of March, he was gone on business again. We talked every day. I missed him terribly. He said he missed me so much, and that is when he knew he wanted a future with me. So I think that is 5 months in.
ETA: We met in October 2010
Well...I think that "falling in love" and "loving someone" are different. Falling in live is all the feelings associated with being romantically serious with someone, but loving someone takes time and a shared history of being able to count on that person to be "it" in your life. I do think it's ok to say I love you when you're falling in love though, because how else are you supposed to express your feelings?
J and I just said I love you, and we're 2.5 months in. I definitely feel in love, but loving him will only come with time and experiences.
BF and I have been together for a year and a half - I said I Love You to him around the 6 month mark.
I started to fall for him around the 3/4 month mark, but wasn't ready to say the words yet. I remember being really conscious of wanting to take things slowly and just see where the relationship went.
I also was going to try and wait until he said it, then I realized that was stupid and if I felt that way should just say so. Thankfully, he did feel the same way and said it back.
This! SO and I exchanged "I love yous" around 2 months in when we were in the lovey-dovey phase. We've now been together for 1 year and 11 months (as of today
) and probably entered the "loving someone" phase about 6-7 months in. It's different for everyone.