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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
S/O of not letting a guy know where you live (from expecting's post)
At what point do you let a guy know your last name? I don't have a home phone, so I'm not in the phone book, but you can easily find out someone's address by looking up tax records, and all you need is their last name and county. I don't know if most creepers would do this, but it makes me want to remain totally anonymous until I am reasonably sure the person isn't a whacko. I guess I'm overly suspicious, but I hate that the Internet basically gives you a map and directions to be able to stalk someone. Anyone else this paranoid?
She's crafty - and she's just my type.
Re: S/O of not letting a guy know where you live (from expecting's post)
Hmm.. not very long because I personally do not want to date a guy very long without knowing his last name.
If you are talking about online dating, then I would never give my last name until after meeing in person.
The guy I went out with on Saturday night asked me my last name and he asked me where my son went to school!
I think most guys are too lazy to stalk though.
I use a PO Box for most of my mail... it's easier as I have been moving around a lot and don't want to keep changing my address. I would not let anyone pick me up for a least the first 3-4 dates... I like the option of being able to leave and it's a guarantee I won't drink more than a drink because I have to drive.
See I get a little weirded out if a guy won't give me his last name before we go out. Like, what is he trying to hide? I do like to investigate, but I'm completely uninterested in stalking.
I can see where you may want to wait until a first date to ask though, so maybe I'll change my policy.
I don't even let random people I meet know my last name. Soon after I became single the last time, I met a really nice guy through a group of acquaintances...who turned out to be a sex offender. From my experiences, most guys aren't so concerned about people knowing their last names, or at least they understand many women are more concerned.
Do all my paranoid sisters know you can get a disposable number through Google Voice?
I'm very open about my last name. If I talk to someone online I pretty quickly move it to my email, which has my last name. I think I have pretty good judgment about people, but if someone really wants to research tax parcels and such and find out where I live, and stalk me, so be it.
I have two protective Great Danes, and neighbors who are always outside, and kitchen knives.