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JDate
Has anyone used JDate? If so, what are your thoughts/opinions? I'm toying with the idea of joining.
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Re: JDate
Well I'm not Jewish...
aren't you supposed to be Jewish?
Typically most users are, however, I know of someone who isn't Jewish who went on there because she prefers Jewish men.
I don't know how many of the ladies on here are Jewish, so I didn't know if any have tried it.
Yup, I was on it before I met XH and after. To be honest, I was on it when I was only interested in dating Jewish guys. That's no longer the case (if you find a Jewish guy who likes country music let me know) so I didn't want to limit myself on JDate.
I found that a lot of the guys on JDate were also on Match or some of the free sites near me. There was definitely a lot of Match crossover but if you're only interested in Jewish guys, then it's worth a shot. It's big in NYC and other metro areas (LA, Chicago, NJ, Boston, etc.) and not so much in suburbs I think. Depends on where you live I guess.
But if you're not Jewish, please don't sign up. It's really douchy when people sign up for a niche site and they're not in the niche. There are a lot of people on there who only want to date Jews and it screws up the pool of potentials when non-Jews are in there.
ETA: Maybe douchy isn't the right word, but you know what I mean. Just like how it's a lot of triathletes and bodybuilders on fitnesssingles and you'd side eye someone who just wants to be with someone with a hot bod but sits on the couch, I give pause of non-Jews who sign up for JDate. That's all.
Thanks for the insight. I am Jewish, and completely agree about the people who aren't Jewish and signing up. I didn't do well with Match at all last year, do who knows. I'm currently giving eHarmony a try, but so far I hate it.
This makes my skin prickle. I think its a poor comparison. It make me think you may have a touch of the douche yourself.
:::butting in:::
How is that a poor comparison? Each site caters to a specific "classification" of people. Just trying to understand what you mean.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Well, I am considering converting. Right now I am NOT Jewish. But it may be my intended desire to find someone who is. Her remarks lead me to believe that if she were the ruler of JDate that I would be/should be excluded. I can go into a relationship with someone who is athletic and be supportive and want to learn about being athletic. Its not false/misleading so long as you say who you are. There is an option on JDate to filter out the 'non-chosen' and there is a nice little box us non-Jews can check to warn those who dont wish to be tainted. I sound douchey here too but I am owning it. Yeah!
Gotcha. Can't speak as to the JDate thing because I am not Jewish but I get that it is frustrating if you say I am looking for XX qualities and people pretend to have XX when in fact, they don't. Unfortunately I think a lot of people do this sometimes which is where Mint is coming from (or maybe not, feel free to say I am wrong, Mint). When I was on Match, I said in my profile that you got "bonus points" for being a runner. Guys would email me telling me that they were runners but forgot to mention that it was one 5k race they did 3 years ago and haven't ran since.
I bolded the one comment that you made because I agree with it. BF put in his email that he runs because he has to (military) but doesn't really enjoy it. I gave him a shot because he was upfront with me about it.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I totally agree with you however there are some people who don't. My friend dated a guy who was of a different nationality. When it came time to get engaged, he ultimately ended it because she was American. Everyone has a different set of morals and values.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
This happened to me in undergrad. He introduced to to his sister first, who was like, "uh, she isnt Indian". I, for one, was shocked! How did they uncover my elaborate ruse?!?!
I, think those people also have a touch of the douche.
If you're not Jewish, why would you only want to date Jewish men? I'm a little lost on this.
I mean, the one Jewish guy I've dated had a really big...
but I'm pretty sure they all don't.
Ha, thank you! That's what I was sitting here wondering.
I was gone all day but I don't understand how it was a poor comparison. There are some people who want to date only similar individuals, whether that's with activity level; religion; race or something else. It wasn't meant to be douchey. It sound like you're a bit sensitive because you're converting so I get that but don't call me a douche for making a comparison.
Since you are converting, then you may be more open-minded than people who were born into a religion and are only willing to date members of that religion. Judaism, as you may come to discover, is more than a religion. It's very cultural. A lot of people on JDate aren't there just to date someone who doesn't believe Christ is their savior, they're looking for someone who grew up with a similar lifestyle and family as their own. Someone who understands that aspect of being Jewish.
That's what I meant when I made the comparison. Someone who eats McDonalds and lives a sedentary lifestyle might not have a problem dating a marathoner but a marathoner might not want to date someone who can't appreciate the way they live their life. Perhaps it was a poor comparison in your eyes, but the fact that Judaism can be more of a cultural way of life for some people is what I was attempting to convey.
Also, if you say that you're not Jewish but willing or looking to convert, then by all means hop on JDate. There are many people on the site however, who aren't as up front about it as you're willing to be, and that I take issue with. It's the same for people who lie on regular dating sites. It's just not cool.