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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
child support/ joint bank acct??
Going to try & not make this to long & complicated! Been divorced since december 2011, had been seperated since june 2008. We made an agreement on child support without going to court & I took X amount out monthly from the joint account we kept open for that reason. Well, I had a feeling he was making more than he let on when he switched jobs, he finally sent me his W-2 & he's making $86,000 a year, WAY more then he told me. I have since filed for support through the court, but it is taking forever. In the meantime I went on the child support calculator website & estimated what I should be getting based on his & my income. I should add that I am disabled & between working part time, and my disability I make less than $20,000 a year. I have full custody & he has no communication, with me or our daughter. I started taking out $400 more a month than I was getting from him. This was after calling, texting & emailing him to tell him I was going to do so, with no response from him at all. Is what I am doing wrong and or illegal? My name is still on the account, so technically I can take what I want from there right? I am worried about screwing myself though, I am afraid he may just not put any money in there, & I wont have anything to take out. I am not trying to be greedy, I am just having a really difficult time. I tried working full time, and doing this all on my own, & ended up on morphine patches from the pain from my disability. I am so tired of struggling, & was livid when I found out how much he was making without telling me. Any advice is appreciated, thanks for letting me vent if you've made it this far!
Re: child support/ joint bank acct??
Legally, it's a joint account and you're entitled to whatever is in it. For me, I'd have a hard time taking extra money out of there and not feeling guilty about it. But, that's just me. You've made an attempt to contact him about taking the extra money, and he hasn't responded. The way I see it, go ahead and keep doing that.
I am glad to hear you've filed for CS the proper way. That'll make your life a lot easier than having to deal with your X.
You've contacted him - just keep track of what you take. If he stops putting money in there for you, he's only screwing himself. Because you've already filed when the determination is made of what he owes monthy they calculate that from when you filed. What ever he owes monthly will be his arrears minus what he's already paid you. It seems that if he hasn't said anything about you taking the extra, he probably realizes he owes you more. Does he know you filed? If not, maybe he's just trying to keep you happy so you don't.