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If I'm asking this question - is it a sign?
Our inspection is tomorrow, and I keep waffling about the house. (I also have a terrible time making big decisions!)
The angels did not "sing" to me when I walked it, but on paper it's perfect. It's where we want, it has 3 bedrooms, it has a finished basement, attic, yard, garage, driveway, good taxes. Kitchen needs work but with some updates would be fine.
But I'm just not head over heels. In my mind it feels super small - then when I'm at the house it feels okay. My plan is to go tomorrow and use masking tape to lay out our bedroom set to see if it fits.
DH and I had a LOOOOOOOOONG talk last night, and essentially he wants me to be happy, and if this house isn't it, then we need to walk...
It's not that I hate it, but I just don't love it (today). My last post..I loved it. AHH!
I can't decide if I am talking myself into this, or talking myself out of it.
Re: If I'm asking this question - is it a sign?
What about it makes you not love it? I'm a very practical person so if it was perfect on paper, I'd probably be pretty happy. However, it can be perfect on paper and not perfect for you.
DH and I saw a house and it was perfect on paper but the bedrooms were small and so was the kitchen. In that sense, it just didn't work for me. I'm glad we didn't get it because I'm sure the entire time through closing I would have worried about the bedroom size.
Are you worried about making the updates? Are they necessary updates or just something you would want to do? What about having cash to make those updates?
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Is it the house you're questioning, or are you just nervous about buying? Is there a quality the house could have that would make you feel more certain?
We walked from the first house we were under contract for because it was too small. I was worried nothing better would come along so I compromised too soon. We ended up with the right house.
Why don't you see how you feel tomorrow? You might not be the type of person who ends up over the moon when they find the right house (I wasn't), but you want to make sure that it's practical for you.
The master bedroom feels small to me - even though according to my paperwork, the MB is bigger (14x13'4) as compared to our current bedroom (12'9x13).
The kitchen is laid out in a decent way - but yes, I do worry what the updates will cost. It definitely either needs 1) to cut into the cabinet/counter and install a stove, or to replace the wall oven with a larger one and 2) I don't love the windows in the living room - they're pane windows with awning windows at the bottom. I don't feel like they're major updates, but I don't know enough about anything to have a good sense (which always stresses me out). My FIL is a contractor and he said the kitchen is totally doable... It'll also need new appliances, but the current ones work and are fine until we save for those (that not necessarily a priority_ but the cooking piece is - since I do all the cooking.
We're keeping a decent amount in savings for such purposes, but even still it's stressful to think about.
Part of me feels like we SHOULD be buying our forever home, as I have little interest in moving/selling, etc. And in theory, we have enough space for 2 kids, etc. if we chose to stay there forever but I have a hard time imagining if we'd feel cramped or not.
Kaylie, that's what i'm trying to get a handle on and having a hard time with. If the house had a newer kitchen and a 1/2 bathroom somewhere I think those would go a long way to allay my worries, I think.
I sound a lot like you!! This is a great house, in a great neighborhood at a great price...it's all the things we're looking for minus a few. Are those things big enough to make us walk? I need to figure it out!
That's my plan at this point. I've asked DH to pick up masking tape, and I am going to measure our bedroom furniture and lay it out on the floor, hoping that will help.
I'm likely not to be the over the moon type - I don't get all squealy and excited about many things, lol. But you're right, I have to figure out if it's practical for us.
I had to get over the idea of buying our forever home. As did our families! We are buying a 3 bedroom home that will be perfectly fine for us to have our children in. Later in life would be like a bigger home, yes. Do we need it right now, no. My MIL would have liked to have seen us in a much larger home than what we are purchasing. The truth is I would love a basement and extra living space but it just doesn't come in our price range and in the style/age of home we want.
You might ask your FIL but replacing windows can be very pricey. Think upwards of $10K if you do an entire house.
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I sort of feel this way about the house that we are under contract on... I really truly love everything about it except that I wish it was a little bigger. Like you said, it feels fine when you are in it, but on paper it's about the same size as our current house.
I don't feel like i'm settling though, because it is such a big step up from our current house in so many ways. 2 car garage (we have none), bigger kitchen, it's only 5 years old, we won't have to repaint, the laundry on bedroom level, everything is fully finished, and the yard/landscaping/back porch is utterly amazing.... It really needs no work except for a few small things we want to upgrade here and there. It is DH's #1 choice house (which means alot because he hates everything).
Briana you are like my GO TO on this board! That is EXACTLY it. This is a 3 bedroom home that will be perfectly fine to have children in (with the bonus of a screened porch and basement to escape to). Yes, I'd like a bigger house..but the flip side is I also do not want a bigger mortgage payment!
It would only be the 3 front windows..the rest of the house has normal windows, and some awning windows, which work. There's at least one or two "normal" window in each bedroom and then awning windows on opposite walls for ventilation. No ceiling fans though..which is something I'd want to do eventually.
I think it's funny that the above paragraph is me basically defending the house and it's windows...a good sign, no? Haha.
Thanks again for all your comments and feedback..I'm sure I'll have more to say after tomorrow! DH is out picking up masking tape now.
It's funny because when I bought my first car in college I had this same reaction. Love it when I was driving it but scared to death about putting the money down when I wasn't behind the wheel. It's likely you are just feeling the same way. You are sure when you are there but have doubts when you get home. I think its normal.
Defending the house has to mean you have some "love" in your heart somewhere. I would wait to see how tomorrow goes and go from there. Maybe take some time to really be in the house. I know when we were looking at house and even the first house that we offered on I never got to spend a lot of time there but every time I was there I felt like I got to know the house more and more. Also, saw new things each time.
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Thanks! That is exactly how I am feeling!
I'm looking forward to tomorrow, I'm going to stay as long as I can. I've taken some measurements of our larger furniture and am going to tape out the floor in the bedroom. I'm also interested to see what the inspector has to say.
Stay tuned for an update!
Thanks again for the feedback. It's great to know I'm not alone.
Is it furnished right now? I know our current place felt a lot bigger once we go our furniture in.
No place will feel perfect but if you have been looking for awhile and this place meets everything you need better than anything you have seen I would overlook the cosmetic issues (especially since your FIL is a contractor) But, if tomorrow it really doesn't feel right then move on and keep looking. The right house will be out there!
Best of luck today on the inspection!
Our house building adventure (UPDATED 8/20/12)
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I did not fall in love with our house, either. I had already fallen in love with a house that we lost out on in a bidding war...that we are now relieved we did not end up with! We got a bigger house with better land for the same price, in almost the same neighborhood (we live around a large lake, the other house is on the other side), on a better street, with a better view (trees rather than a semi-busy road).
Now that we have moved into the house and started making it our own, DH and I love it. It is ok not to have a passionate love for the house before you buy, it doesn't mean it isn't the right house!
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Inspection went very well! No major problems. I'm waiting on the inspector's report now. He was going to finish the radon test today.
I feel SO MUCH better. This is definitely our place. There's plenty of room, and I'm feeling more excited now!
We'll review the inspectors report and go from there.
Thanks everyone for all your input and help!