Would this irritate you?

JReeds9 · April 2012

I have a friend that I work out with a few days a week in the evenings. She wanted to bet back into running and do a race with me so we signed up for one in May. Well now she is bailing on me almost every time we set up a time to run. Something always comes up. She hasn't signed up for the race yet either... I'm getting annoyed. I feel bad though because she is always thanking me for pushing her and motivating her but I am just getting sick of getting bailed on. I plan on running in the evening with her, but then she bails and it's hard for me to motivate myself to get out there alone at that time. If I run alone I prefer to do it first thing in the AM, I have more energy. I've mentioned all this to her before and she did get better for awhile but now is right back to where she was before. Now this race is coming up and I'm signed up alone for it which was not the plan. I just wish people would do what they say they are going to do!

Joenali · April 2012

I've had friends do that too. But ever since I joined a team no one has ever bailed because the are all committed to races already. It's been pretty amazing to connect with people who have similar mindsets. Also, races are fun to do alone! It's kind of a bummer but once you start you'll have a blast!

pennypie07 · April 2012

Friends who habitually bail on things are a pet peeve of mine. Perhaps that's why I've never had a work out buddy -- even trying to work out with DH can wreck my motivation. He feels like not working out, it rubs off on me, cue vicious cycle of not going to the gym.

In your situation I might just level with her and say that you're committed to the race and if she can't commit to it too and commit to running in the evenings with you and not bailing, then you're going to train on your own from here on out. I'd try to give her an out and be understaning about it. And maybe y'all can try it again with something else, but it just doesn't seem to be working out this time. GL.

JReeds9 · April 2012

Joenali:
I've had friends do that too. But ever since I joined a team no one has ever bailed because the are all committed to races already. It's been pretty amazing to connect with people who have similar mindsets. Also, races are fun to do alone! It's kind of a bummer but once you start you'll have a blast!

I'm in the process of looking for a running group but I haven't had any luck yet. I'm trying to look at it like you said, it could be fun to race alone too. Never done that before so it'd be a new thing to try!

JReeds9 · April 2012

pennypie07:

Friends who habitually bail on things are a pet peeve of mine. Perhaps that's why I've never had a work out buddy -- even trying to work out with DH can wreck my motivation. He feels like not working out, it rubs off on me, cue vicious cycle of not going to the gym.

In your situation I might just level with her and say that you're committed to the race and if she can't commit to it too and commit to running in the evenings with you and not bailing, then you're going to train on your own from here on out. I'd try to give her an out and be understaning about it. And maybe y'all can try it again with something else, but it just doesn't seem to be working out this time. GL.

Huge pet peeve of mine too! I've had a few talks with her about this, doesn't seem to change things much. She's a great friend in all other aspects, I'm just starting to think that she's not really as into taking it seriously as I am. Which is fine, if that's what she wants. but obviously we have different goals.

kjewell · April 2012

Pretty much everything irrates me.

If I were you I would just start running in the morning on your own. It's clear she isn't into so do what you prefer.

Brit's Luna154 · April 2012

I would just tell her that you have switched to morning runs leaving from your house at 6AM or whatever. She can meet you there if she wants, but you are leaving promptly at 6 so you can make it to work on time.

daisysle · April 2012

I'd be annoyed. You have obviously continued to try to stick with your plans and run with her. Since you prefer running in the mornig, I personally would just go back to doing so and plan to run your own race. It doesn't sound like she will sign up!

Mush-Tastic · April 2012

In general people who can't commit to things or constantly bail drive me batty and I tend to cut my losses.

Since you're now committed to this race and actively training for it, I'd tell her you're going to move your running/training to a more suitable time that works for you and she can join you if she ever wants.

It's nice that she finds you as inspiration, but at some point she needs to find it within herself to really take action.

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