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16 and Pregnant: Alex 4/17 SP
Wow...I feel really bad for her especially since her boyfriend is a no-show mostly..When he went to the ultrasound with her, he looked high as a kite...I understand how she feels...I know she wants to keep the baby but her mom does not want to raise a baby in her home..I am hoping she maybe will give the baby to her friend's mom...This episode is pretty sad so far:(
Re: 16 and Pregnant: Alex 4/17 SP
IUI #1 10/12/11 (Bravelle + HCG + Prometrium & acupuncture) = 10/26 BFP! Beta #1=250, Beta #2= 615. 1st u/s 11/8.
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I thought the same exact thing when she said that...not that much in the grand scheme of things!
I agree with you!! She did not have that much support in taking care of her daughter. I think she should have given the baby to her friend's parents. They really wanted a baby and they would have let Alex see the baby. She is the only responsible parent and am glad she is..That Matt is a loser. He is always sweaty looking, tired, hung over. He is another pathetic excuse for a parent and human being...How sad:(
It didn't surprise me that he bailed - given his track record previously but that's just wrong. And agree that she should have adopted her baby out to Brianna's parents but she said she "just can't get rid of the baby now", wtf.
IUI #1 10/12/11 (Bravelle + HCG + Prometrium & acupuncture) = 10/26 BFP! Beta #1=250, Beta #2= 615. 1st u/s 11/8.
Amen.
My favorite line of the night was when that lady put her stuff on the curb and Alex said, "It's disgusting! Hasn't anyone ever heard of freakin sophistication?!" I died.
The boyfriend was obviously on drugs but even he was smart enough to know that a minimum wage job was not enough to support a child.
Did you see how loose the car seat straps were? That poor baby wouldn't stand a chance in a car wreck.
Yes!! I wanted to move the chest clip up and tighten the straps badly.
I know mom didn't approve-but she could have been a little more supportive.
Are you kidding?
I have a baby and think she should have picked adoption. She can't take care of this child. Do you not agree with adoption at all?
I was so frustrated for the mother--I could tell exactly what she was trying to get through to Alex, but the girl just refused to listen. That mother hounded her to make a decision and start preparing for her choice one way or the other. The mother was FINE if Alex wanted to keep the baby but she just wanted her to be prepared, save some money, work out a plan or something. Instead, the damn girl gave birth to a baby with no money in her checking account, took her home to live in a stranger's spare bedroom without paying the rent, and then flipped out when her boyfriend, whom she knew was a deadbeat, was never around.
She would have been a lot more prepared and ready to give the baby up if she gone through the process of getting ready. I always think it is a bad idea when girls say they're going to have someone close to them adopt the baby. Alex needed to go spend some time with an adoption counselor and look at some profiles of couples and see for real just how much more stable her daughter's life could have been. Sitting on your friend's parents' couch talking about being able to see the baby all the time does not prepare you for giving it up.
Alex set herself up for failure, and I really didn't feel that bad when the boyfriend pointed out that he wanted the baby to be adopted because he KNEW he wouldn't be able to live up to her expectations.
I have birthed a real live baby and still think she should have given her baby up for adoption. I think this for 99% of these girls.
Is your issue with adoption? Or do you just think people are being insensitive towards the emotions that go into choosing adoption?
Do I think it should have been a clear cut, easy choice? Absolutely not. I can't even relate to a situation like this and say what I "would have done," I seriously can't.To even think about how hard that would me makes me sad. No one said it was an easy choice.
I think adoption would be best for the baby in the long run in the majority of teen parent cases (not all), but I completely don't blame her for not choosing adoption in this case. Maybe there were things that happened they didn't show, but based on what they showed, she never received any kind of counseling. Rarely would someone identify/choose the adoptive parent and within 2-3 weeks just be okay with the idea on their own.
I think that couple (the wife) were swooping in on her and totally taking advantage of her. It was just a bad situation. The husband wasn't pressuring but the wife totally was. If they truly cared about her and the baby like they said they did, they wouldn't have dropped off the radar when she chose parenting. If they really cared they would have still been there as a support. The living arrangement was crappy. Half rent for one bedroom (when the land lady had her own stuff everywhere else in the house). I'm sure it was awkward for everyone involved, but I just got that vibe.
And not to be snarky PP, but it is rude to say "give up" a baby for adoption. It is more appropriate to say "make an adoption plan" or something like that. This gives a totally different insinuation. The birth mother who places for adoption almost always lovingly, painstakingly choose this decision. "Give up" gives the feeling the baby is disregarded.
I'm interested to see this one down the road. She walked a mile to McDonalds when she was 9 months pregnant to work. That says a lot about her character!
I thought this episode was just....sad.
Did anyone else find it weird that Alex's mom sort of kicked her out, then welcomed her back with that silly "baby shower/welcome party" thing, and was then upset when the friend's neighbor threw all her stuff on the driveway? It just was too many mixed messages for me.
The baby daddy/boyfriend was a complete moron. Wash your hair, get a job, go to school. Honestly. It's not that hard.
I think that Alex should have opted for a closed adoption and her daughter would have had a much better, stable life. Not with the friends' parents, that would have been hard and confusing for everyone. But placed into a loving, stable family with the means to raise a child and not a hodgepodge of people. I just think it is going to be a trainwreck....
You are right, bad choice of words. I definitely did not mean to imply that.