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@Related: Discipline book rec's
I'm looking for books to read this summer that focuses on strategies for dealing with and teaching proper behavior. My young babe of 16 months has learned "no" and throwing temper tantrums so I really need some guidance on how to manage this without her turning into a full blown brat monster. I know many of you speak from a position of common sense and experience when dealing with @ problems so i'm hopeful some of you may have good book rec's. I lurk often enough to trust y'alls opinion. TIA
Re: @Related: Discipline book rec's
Spank her!
You can paypal me $14.99.
I have liked "Happiest Toddler on the Block" and some aspects of "Love and Logic Birth to 6 Years." Mainly the parts that focus on accentuating/rewarding positive behavior and giving targeted attention with some handy, targeted advice for dealing with the inevitable crummier side of toddler behavior.
What's worked well for me is to nurture a lot of love and mutual respect early on (like, from infancy), layered with a fiendish consistency, and then deal with the negative stuff clearly, directly, immediately, succinctly, and with empathy. The empathy comes from the fact that they sometimes don't know what they're doing and sometimes can't regulate their emotions back to stasis very easily. SOMETIMES. Most of the time they know exactly what they are doing and should have a very good idea of what's expected of them, provided you explain exactly what that is early and often in terms they can understand.
It also helps a lot to be able to walk away when you need to and whisper to your partner, "Please take over where I've left off, I'm done here!"
I've been checking in with Happiest Toddler on the Block for guidance. It's good for getting an understanding of what's going on in the brain at ages 1-4 and specific ideas on how to communicate on their level.
Basic Behavioral Modification techniques work.
Calmly respond and consistantly enforce consequences -- EVERY time the behavior occurs --- (you have to tolerate the backlash which will at first intensify - but gradually receed) . When you can do this it can be amazing how fast things change.