Trouble in Paradise
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Immaturity alert on FM
Help! Someone needs help!
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65321443.aspx
Its worth a gander.
Re: Immaturity alert on FM
help! i really really messed up...
i really really F***ed up...
i always take my husband lunch while hes working. we always hang out in the car so that way we dont have to talk to other people in his lunch room and that way we can talk privately. well we usually goof off or just talk about w/e.
well today we were talking and laughing and he touched me with his cold hand. i screamed and pushed his hand away bc it was so cold. he thought it was funny and kept touching me. since he kept reaching for my neck i would try to bite him but he would pull his hand away. (we were laughing the whole time). anyways he reached for my neck and pushed my face away so i wouldnt bite him, but it was hurting me, so i was screaming at him to let go, but he kept telling me to say sorry. but it was hurting so bad that i started crying, so he let go, ....... and i slapped him......
i know... its horrible. we've had rules in our marriage of no hitting or ever hurting each other like that. but idk what happened... i was just so pissed.
he stormed out of the car, slammed the car door so hard that it shook the car, and went into his job. then he posted something on facebook about "certain people crossing the line and how hes at his breaking point" something like that.
i keep msging him that im sorry but hes pissed and he keeps replying with "good for you". he also said that hes tired of the bullshit etc.
i really messed up and i honestly dont know what to do... help. =(
I'm glad you got it Kuus.
Everyone told her that they have to grow up. Apparently she didn't like that.
No kidding!
I can see a no yelling rule, but shouldn't no hitting kind of be obvious?
So essentially he is choking her and she hauled off and hit him? Not that I would do the same thing, but WTF? If someone is choking you and you ask them to stop, then stop or be prepared for a knee to the balls.
Something tells me they are violent with each other regularly.
Wow. I can't believe they have rules about DV. It doesn't sound like it's the deal breaker rules (i.e. cheating, DV, debt) It sounds like they have been there before.
Seriously, anyone that does not stop when I say "Stop, you're hurting me." I would cut off contact from them. Spouse, family or friend. If they stopped after I cried I might cut them out right there and then. What does she think she is worth?
Second question: if they have this rule about "no hitting or ever hurting each other" and he broke the rule first, why is she the one grovelling for forgiveness?
Edit: To quote properly.
That's what I said to her before the DD.
I guess my parents raised me different because I always had that rule made without any verbal confirmation. I roughhouse all the time with my friends, even now, but it has never gotten near there. It might be because I think horse playing demands a large amount of trust because of how vulnerable you become, so I was very selective who I chose for playmates.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10