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Another online dating Q... when do you meet up?

This is my first time online dating. I've exchanged a couple of e-mails with one guy (just this morning). It's kind of hard to get used to. I'm much better at face to face conversation than e-mail. I'd much rather just meet up to see if we get along. Is it an online dating faux pas to ask to meet up after only a few e-mails?

Re: Another online dating Q... when do you meet up?

  • Not a faux pas at all and in fact I prefer to meet up sooner rather than later.  I find that it's a waste of time "getting to know" someone over email if you don't have a connection in person.  Also, it's tough to "get to know" someone through email at all.  Sometimes people suck at email and are better in person, sometimes you had a great written connection but the spark isn't there in person.  

    I value my time and don't want to waste it so I often will suggest meeting up before they do.  It can be a natural progression from an email (I like hiking and wine tasting. Me too. Wanna grab a glass of wine?) or I will just flat out ask if they'd like to grab a drink or coffee.   

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  • I usually email for a couple of days, then the guy usually volunteers his #. I'll do some google stalking, then text him if it comes back reasonably clear. Usually within a day or so of texting we make plans to go out. I don't waste more than 4-5 days total.
    She's crafty - and she's just my type.
  • Exactly! I feel the same way. I don't feel like you really get to know someone through e-mail and don't want to waste my time. I think I'll wait for a good opening and ask to meet up.
  • I think it's much better to meet up sooner rather than later.  Eliminates the awkward build up and then probable (but not necessarily guaranteed) letdown.  Less time communicating means less time conjuring up an image in your mind of someone who might not live up to your expectations. 
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