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Bedroom on separate floor from kids
Hi. We are looking for our first home and TTC our first. Several of the houses we have looked at have a master suite on one floor and the remaining bedrooms on another floor. My mom has mentioned that we won't want young children that far away from us at night. I'm wondering if anyone has lived in this setup and how it worked or didn't work out for you. TIA!
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Re: Bedroom on separate floor from kids
If it were a home I was planning on staying in long term it wouldn't be that big of a deal because later on down the road when they are older I'd prefer to have the bedrooms seperated.
But if this isn't a long term house, then the seperate floors would probably not be worth the inconvenience.
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I honestly never thought of this until I started watching House Hunters and reading this board. We started to think about it when looking for a house.
We realized that it'd probably be easier having at least some of the rooms on the same level. But it would not have been a deal breaker for us.
Our new house has 2 additional bedrooms on the same level as the master and 2 more bedrooms on a different level. We are planning on keeping the youngest kids on the same level and then when they get older, they can move to the ones on the different level.
ETA: we don't have kids yet, but will probably start TTC in about a year.
Dealbreaker for us, too.
As others have mentioned, we didn't like the idea if being separated when our kids are young. But we also prefer to have the more personal space (i.e., bedrooms) all on the 2nd floor, making the 1st floor more of our shared, "public" space for entertaining. That separation was very important for us.
The house we're moving out of has the master bedroom downstairs and 2 bedrooms upstairs.
Finn slept in our room until he was 3 months old and then we moved him upstairs. During the hell that is the 4 month sleep regression (TTC folks, don't Google, you don't want to know) I slept in the guest room next to his room. Once I'd had enough of the shenanigans and sleep trained him, I went back downstairs. He's a very good sleeper and even without the monitor I'm pretty sure I could hear him downstairs if he really needed me.
I can't say that I love having the bedrooms on separate floors and the house we're buying is a one story ranch. If we were still house hunting and I fell in love with a house that had the master downstairs, we would buy it.
I don't know if that helps anyone, but I just thought I'd share since we are living in that situation.
My parents have a house like this. We moved there when I was 5 and my brother was only 2. Honestly, it was never a problem and my mom said that she would have done it even if we were younger. I'm glad they have this setup because as they get older all of their living space is all on one floor. It's nice to know that I won't have to worry about that when they get older.
And in terms of having a baby in this setup, I don't mean to sound snarky, but that's what baby monitors and baby gates are for. And when they are no longer babies, I actually think it's a more convenient setup (i.e. everyone had their own space, if you KWIM). Basically, it's not a deal breaker for me as the condo we are buying has the second bedroom a floor lower than the master.
It seems like others share the same concern, so I might also be worried about resale.
Our new home is perfect though because three rooms are together and one (the guest room, for now) is completely separate from us and has a bathroom. Down the road, when we have teenagers, we could always do master down and guest room up with the kids. Lots of options "under roof," as our realtor liked to say.
We looked and LOVED one home with a master on main setup. Ultimately, I was not comfortable with sleeping on a different level than my child(ren). I do not want her to try to navigate steps when she is sleepy and sick/scared/upset in the middle of the night.
The home we chose has the master upstairs with the other bedrooms, but on the other end of the main hall. There is also a full bedroom/bath downstairs so if we stay here after we can no longer negotiate stairs so we aren't limited to "upstairs" living.
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I'll be honest and state right off the bat that I'm a worry wart. I do think worst case scenario.
For me, this was a deal breaker. We must have kids (we have a DS who is two and a DD who is two months) beds with our's on the same level. I'm thinking of the little inconveniences like running up and down if there is a sickness or a nightmare. And, ditto PP about not wanting kids up and down in the dark. But also what if there's a fire or an intruder?
I want to be able to be there or at least be close enough to them have the best shot possible with my husband's shot gun to protect my kids (okay, we don't have a shot gun, but you can get my point).
Yeah. It's probably fine, but it COULD happen.
We are specifically building a house with the master separated from the other bedrooms. We want everyone to be able to have their own space. We also like the idea of the home being "one level living" for us as we age. Our floor plan is a story and a half, master down and 3 bedrooms up. If it becomes an issue while having a very young child, we have discussed setting up a crib in the master or us sleeping in one of the extra bedrooms upstairs temporarily. The long-term benefits of everyone being able to have their own space will, in my opinion, be well worth a potential short-term inconvenience of sleeping on a different floor than a child.
Yes this would be a deal breaker for me.
In fact I take this one step further. This is why we're only looking at 1 story houses.
We have that set up now. DD slept in our room for a long time anyways so she only went upstairs once we were comfortable with it. We also have a a smoke alarm in her room and a monitor in her room too so we aren't worried about fire safety.
I like the way it is now. I like not having to go upstairs all the itme to get stuff out of our room and having some privacy when she is in her room. So it has worked out fine for our family. I think once the kids get older we would like it even more.
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