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Considering international move, need advice
I haven't posted on The Nest in ages, and never on this board but have a situation that I would like some feedback on. DH will be finishing graduate school next spring and wants to consider a year in New Zealand for his first contract post-grad (he knows others in his field who have taken this same path and loved it), but we've also seriously talked about a baby in early-mid 2012. I know timing is key and we like to remain flexible, but I was just wondering if any of you with small kids could talk a bit about moving abroad with little ones, was it stressful, do you worry they won't see family enough, etc?
Again, we're staying super flexible and open-minded with this idea, but since we're even considering it I'd love to hear some real stories of how this process (or ones similar to this) went for some of you.
Re: Considering international move, need advice
I didn't move with my LO. I became pregnant here in Brisbane and had him here. So I can't really talk about moving with a LO in tow. But I can speak to your question about family seeing him. We are on Skype every weekend. We are probably closest to our mothers so we communicate with them via Skype and emails. They both have been really supportive and they don't guilt trip us. Though with the latest pregnancy my mom is not adjusting as well as the first time around.
We've been abroad for 2 years now and my mom has been over twice and my MIL has been over once. The distance makes it difficult for family to just hop on a plane and visit whenever. I think this is a great opportunity for you and your family and NZ is a lovely country. For a year, I think the time will fly by and before you know it, it will all be over. Being over here has been the quickest 2 years of my life.
Good luck on your decision! We do have a girl (or two) who does live in NZ with children. Hopefully they can give more insight on living there.
I wouldn't let trying to start a family stop me from moving overseas or starting a new adventure. A lot of us have had our kids overseas in all sorts of places and we're all doing just fine.
You only live once, you shouldn't let opportunities like this pass you by because you feel the need to stay home and maintain the status quo.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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Exactly!
I don't have kids, but I agree with both Tofu and Expat. I think the biggest question you need to ask yourselves is: Will I regret NOT taking the opportunity when I had it.
I agree with the ladies - 1 year in the bigger scheme of things is a very short time (even with kids) - if you have the opportunity GO FOR IT! NZ is a beautiful country too - I'd live there for a year
My dd only sees her grandparents in person twice a year or so, but she knows them from skype!