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Is there any way to know?!
Hi,
My husband and I got married last May but are having our ceremony in a few weeks. We have been living apart while I finish school and he is in the Navy. After the wedding, I am planning on moving to Virginia, where he is stationed, no big deal. However, he has been land duty for his whole time in and is supposed to change commands for sea duty. His contract ends in February and so he is hoping to stay at the command he is at now, since it would be stupid to move us for just a few months. BUT, knowing the Navy and how they do things, we still may have to move.
Has anyone had to deal with this or have any advice for this situation?
Thanks, Taylor
Re: Is there any way to know?!
AFAIK they probably wont move him. I dont know how this works O vs E or different branches, but the way H has explained it to me when we have talked about things like this in the past is that a PCS generally incurs an obligation of one more year of service (I cant remember the name of that right now), so generally they wont move you if you're about to be out.
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I don't really understand the issue. Is he reenlisting or getting out in February? When is his shore duty tour over? Has he had to pick orders yet?
Nevermind, reading FAIL.
Okay, I just want to make sure the situation here.
His shore tour ends in June, at which point he is up for order and then he's done with the Navy the following February?
And following that your question is whether you would have to move or to stay at the came command?
Okay, if I understand your question correctly then it sounds like you're asking if they would keep him at a seagoing command for for 6-8 months pretending to be on shore tour? I think it's highly unlikely. The Navy doesn't like giving people downtime. They've been burned pretty bad by it in the past. 6-8 months is more than long enough for them to send him to a new command. I've seen it done for shorter time spans than that.
That said, 6-8 months may not be long enough for them to authorize a HHG shipment. I think that the cutoff is closer to 12 months for that, but the trick is that it all depends on how the dates are laid out.
What's really going to happen depends on the needs of the Navy. If they need him badly in South Carolina, he may go to South Carolina while you wait in Virginia. If they're able to find a position where he is needed in Virginia (perhaps at a non sea-going command) then he can stay in Virginia and all that changes is where he reports every day.
So, worst case scenario is he moves on without you for a bit. My advice is do your best to get to know people and develop a social life/ support network in Virginia as soon as you get there so that you'll have the support that you need should you end up on your own for a while. I know that it doesn't sound like very much fun and it isn't, but having that local support will be invaluable to you.
I've been in the situation of moving ahead of DH and also of seeing others left behind while their DH moves on but it's totally doable. I promise.
Edit: I got the sea tour and shore tour reversed, but the opinion is all still the same. Also I forgot to mention that they can issue an extension of orders if they want to keep him for longer at the current command. Big Navy is able to do all kinds of things.
That's generally true for a PCS, but the Navy does sometimes issue temporary orders that do not have an associated HHG shipment entitlement. It's all very luck of the draw/needs of the Navy.