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deployment of spouse ?
Hi Ladies,
In my intro I mentioned that DH is currently deployed. I *think* I'm doing okay as far as handling it, but everyday seems to just be foggy (for lack of another term). Like the days are long, but I can't really remember much from them...It's like I'm going through the motions, but not really living in the moment. I have constant fear & miss him terribly. My 2 year old has been watching more TV than I'd like, but I have no energy (and am not sleeping well at all).
Can you tell me what you did, if you experienced this kind of thing, to get past it? I'm trying to keep busy, and keep my toddler busy...but it's just like living in a haze, please tell me this will go away.
Re: deployment of spouse ?
I've never experienced that, but I highly suggest you get some counseling. You can call Mil1Source and get free phone counseling. It sounds like some level of depression, and it's affecting both you and your child. I would definitely look into some counseling.
Ditto everything beachy said. A few days of sadness is normal but what you are describing is not and it's affecting your child. I would look into getting help.
I'm so sorry that you're feeling that way hon. I think others gave really good advice for counseling.
In the mean time is there anybody that you can hang out with? Anybody who can sort of "nudge" you to get out of the house and visit with people? Sometimes when I'm feeling that way it's because the only interaction I've had in days has been with my house pets. That adult to adult contact and even fresh air are so important to well being.
^This. When H is gone I have a tendency to turn into a hermit and curl up in my room with a book or my laptop and not want to go anywhere unless I have to for work or school. A lot of the time my sister or mom or close friends have to bug me into going out and grabbing some lunch or seeing a movie or something with them. I think if I were living away from them and didn't know anyone or very many people (not sure if this is your situation) I would have a lot harder time.
I actually live near all of our families. I do go out (more than normal, believe it or not) and feel OK when I do...I think part of it just has to do with the weather here lately. It's been gloomy, gray & raining for days. It's not like I don't want to leave the house, or do things...just on the days we have no plans, I miss him more.
It's not like I'm always sad, I just feel like everyday is kind of "cloudy". I have a hard time remembering what we've done during the course of the day & feel like each day is forever long...but then I also think that the days are going quickly. Weird I know. Maybe I'll check into military one source. I keep hoping the weather will finally turn nice, so I can just focus on playgrounds & trips to the zoo with my girl
I've experienced the fog. It was/is called depression in my case. Depression doesn't necessarily mean crying under your covers everyday. I called it "the void." It's like nothing's good, nothing's bad... it just exists.
I had friends and a boyfriend and socialized and did all the checkbox things you're supposed to, but those things didn't really penetrate me. I could have fun and smile and be happy in the moment, but it didn't affect my underneath void level. IDK, it's hard to describe.
Call mil 1 source.