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Question for those who are or have ever been miserable at a job.

I am mentally checked out of this place and have no intention of staying once I find the right opportunity. They could double my salary and I would just roll my eyes. Jesus Christ himself couldn't even convince me to stay.....I am THAT fed up. Complete mismanagement and utter dysfunction is why I can't do this anymore. 

Here is my question for you. Should I even say when things bother me anymore? They restructured my department in such a way I hear I am going to get some really sucky job duties while giving others responsibilities I actually like and was previously told I would retain. They haven't officially given me my job description yet. However when that time comes and they give me crap should I express my displeasure or just not say anything? An alternative is for me to say I disagree but not push the issue. Thoughts?

Re: Question for those who are or have ever been miserable at a job.

  • I would, because I'd want to fight to retain any parts of my job that I remotely enjoyed. 
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  • I'd probably opt for the "say I disagree but not push the issue".  And just use it as extra impetus to get the duck out of fodge.


  • I would just say...

    My understanding based on our previous conversations is that you were going to allow me to retain X responsibilities.  As you know these are functions that I enjoy and would like to continue.  Is there a reason why there is a change to what was previously communicated to me?  Is there any room for negotiation at this point?  

    It is not confrontational but it kind of makes them own up to what they told you before.  Now whether they honor that is a different story but at least you have communicated your concerns.  I wouldn't just take the crappy assignments without at least trying to say something.   

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  • I would express your displeasure, and then do the job that is assigned to you and leave it alone. Restructuring to that extent gives me the willies and this economy isn't one that most people can just leave their jobs in any sort of reasonable time frame just cuz things get shitty. You may have to be there a while still before being able to leave.

    Also, keep your relationships with these people strong and positive (as possible). I'm all for standing up for yourself and ruffling feathers if feathers need to be ruffled, but I'm not going to set you up to being "downsized" when this may be the time to keep your head down.

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  • imagecookiemdough:

    I would just say...

    My understanding based on our previous conversations is that you were going to allow me to retain X responsibilities.  As you know these are functions that I enjoy and would like to continue.  Is there a reason why there is a change to what was previously communicated to me?  Is there any room for negotiation at this point?  

    It is not confrontational but it kind of makes them own up to what they told you before.  Now whether they honor that is a different story but at least you have communicated your concerns.  I wouldn't just take the crappy assignments without at least trying to say something.   

    That's a great way to put it. I'd also insert some sort of language about your task performance history - if you do the job and you do it well, you need to remind them of that and politely encourage them to stick with what's been working. As a boss, I would not want to re-distribute tasks and train new staff to take over if I have someone who already handles them well. That's just silly.

  • How long do you think it will take you to find the right opportunity?  Are you interviewing for other positions right now?

    If I was interviewing and/or had some promising leads - I wouldn't say anything - not worth it to rock the boat if you'll be leaving shortly.  Otherwise I would say something - perhaps before you even get your revised job description so that you're out there first instead of reacting.  

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  •  When I was first advised of these possible changes I did tell them I disagreed and why but I know that will ultimately fall on deaf ears.  However I agree with your advice and when it becomes official I will most definitely say something. Rings is right, I may be here for a while because I am really waiting for the right opportunity.
  • imageIAmMalcolmX:
     When I was first advised of these possible changes I did tell them I disagreed and why but I know that will ultimately fall on deaf ears.  However I agree with your advice and when it becomes official I will most definitely say something. Rings is right, I may be here for a while because I am really waiting for the right opportunity.

    Are they trying to push you out?  I hate to be blunt, but it kind of sounds like they might be.   Sorry your job sucks, in any case.  Been there, done that.

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  • If you think you can change anything, I'd say something.

    If you think it's futile, I'd work on your exit strategy.

    I'm working on my exit strategy.

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  • imageOnomatopoeia:

    imageIAmMalcolmX:
     When I was first advised of these possible changes I did tell them I disagreed and why but I know that will ultimately fall on deaf ears.  However I agree with your advice and when it becomes official I will most definitely say something. Rings is right, I may be here for a while because I am really waiting for the right opportunity.

    Are they trying to push you out?  I hate to be blunt, but it kind of sounds like they might be.   Sorry your job sucks, in any case.  Been there, done that.

    They are not, just idiots. I know it's hard to believe but they are just plain idiots.  They believe if they are nice to me in certain ways I will be a "good sport" and overlook other things. It's unbelievable.

  • imagebrideymcbriderson:

    If you think you can change anything, I'd say something.

    If you think it's futile, I'd work on your exit strategy.

    I'm working on my exit strategy.

    Working, got a call back yesterday. I get a few call backs every other week it's encouraging but I haven't found the right fit yet. I am cautious as I don't want to go into another crappy situation.

  • You only want to do the duties you enjoy????  Other duties as assigned is pretty much standard.  I think your view of work is a bit "off".

    As for leaving - you do your best at your current job while looking for a new one and keep your complaints to yourself when things "bother" you.  Expressing your displeasure only looks bad on your part and they will be looking to replace you - perhaps sooner than you can find a new job.

  • I don't even have the energy to address your comments Sisgual. If that's what you took from my post, whatev's.
  • Can I help you find something new?  Text me.  Everyone else has made great suggestions on how to handle your current situation though.
  • imageChocoNuts:
    Can I help you find something new?  Text me.  Everyone else has made great suggestions on how to handle your current situation though.

    You are so sweet!!! I think what I was really asking is should i ever bother expressing my displeasure at a job I have no intention of staying at. 

  • imageIAmMalcolmX:

    imageChocoNuts:
    Can I help you find something new?  Text me.  Everyone else has made great suggestions on how to handle your current situation though.

    You are so sweet!!! I think what I was really asking is should i ever bother expressing my displeasure at a job I have no intention of staying at. 

    I think you should as long as you are diplomatic about it. It may help them in crafting the position in the future in order to retain the next employee. 

  • After 10 years of dealing with bad management and management that couldn't care less what kind of troubles we were having, I gave up.  I altered between uber niceness to my inept manager, to downright mean.  It never mattered.  No morale, no giveashits, we had nothing.  I stayed because of the vaca and the benefits.

    I've never been so happy to be in another job, finally.

  • imageSisugal:

    You only want to do the duties you enjoy????  Other duties as assigned is pretty much standard.  I think your view of work is a bit "off".

    As for leaving - you do your best at your current job while looking for a new one and keep your complaints to yourself when things "bother" you.  Expressing your displeasure only looks bad on your part and they will be looking to replace you - perhaps sooner than you can find a new job.

    What view? The one that she should have some job satisfaction? I think any decent employer wants happy employees and are concerned about employee morale. I am thankful that I work in a place where I can go in and diplomatically express my concerns when I have them and if they can be addressed they are and if not, at least it is explained to me why things can't change.

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