How important is sex in a relationship

mburkhe · April 2012

My DH is an amazing husband and father. We have a lot of fun hanging out together, we have an awesome balance of alone time, together time and family time. He is a good looking guy, but I am really not attracted to him sexually anymore. I am only 28 years old, I do not want the rest of my life to be crappy in the sex department. How important is sex in a relationship? Am I being a big ol' slut for being annoyed by this, or could it be a real deal breaker?

buddhagouda · April 2012

I think sex is very important, but I don't think it's a dealbreaker at this point. You need to find out what factors are affecting your lack of sexual attraction and work on those before deciding that it's the end of a relationship that otherwise works.

EssBe · April 2012

It's important, but not everything. I think you can give it some time to determine what the problem here is (medical, physical, mental issues, etc.).

Are you on any medications? Look there first.

If it really is that you're just not attracted to him anymore, then only you can decide whether it's time to evaluate the relationship, and determine whether the rest of it makes up for it.

hmonkey · April 2012

is his the only penis you have known?

mburkhe · April 2012

Nope, I have had my share of long term and short term relationships

KristenBtobe · April 2012

In my relationship, it's ebbed and flowed. For a long time it was not important at all. Right now, it's very important and created quite a strain on us.

moojunk · April 2012

I think sex is 100% important, but that's me. You have to decide what's important to you.

RenoisPrettierThanYou · April 2012

Is it important to you or are you troubled because you think it should be more important than it is?

fashion0police · April 2012

I don't think a marriage can survive without it. It can be a dealbreaker for him. You need to have a conversation about it.

ChristinS · April 2012

First, wanting sex does not make one a slut. Secondly, how important it is depends on how important it is to each of you. It's not hugely important to me, and when we're in a lull, I hardly think about it. Conversely, when it's on the upswing, I quite enjoy it. I guess for me, sex is a lot like cake that way. Mmmmm. Cake.

DaringMiss · April 2012

Given that your ticker indicates that you have a kid under the age of three, I would definitely figure that sex can make a come back. Small children are BRUTAL on a couple's sex life, but now that she is old enough, you guys should try going away overnight for some adult time. Have a nice dinner, drink some champagne and see if your husband doesn't look a lot more attractive by candlelight.

marsdgost · April 2012

i think sex is very important

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