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So my date that was cancelled
As I suspected, it was his way of blowing me off. I'm kind of surprised I have to say. I may expect this from someone who was in his 20's or early 30's but not someone who is highly educated and almost 50. He called me daily for 3 weeks and we talked for at least an hour each time. We were getting along pretty well. He went abroad for work and came back and contacted me and set the date and then wham...totally blindsided by this whole thing.
This is not good for someone like me who has no real interest in dating as it is. Total blow to my self esteem which isn't too high to begin with.
And this ladies is why I don't date. Dating is The Suck!
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Re: So my date that was cancelled
Ugh, I'm so sorry, I understand how much that sucks. Yes, it definitely is a blow to the self esteem and while this is easier said than done---try to remember that his blowing you off says more about HIS character and what a douche he is than it does say anything about you. I know it's hard, but TRY TRY TRY not to let this DB make you feel bad about yourself.
Chin up and consider yourself better off!
Exactly this. I know it's hard...especially when you really like someone and get your hopes up. But would you really want someone that undependable and flaky in your life? Probably not.
As we say around here, onward and upward!
He was fun to talk to but I hadn't met him yet nor did I know what he looked like so I can't really say that I liked him but I guess I liked the attention. Oh well.
I agree about dating - I hate it, but I also hate NOT dating, so I choose the lesser of the 2 evils.
If it's any consolation, at least you know him canceling is all HIS issue and has nothing to do with you. Since you hadn't actually met in person, it couldn't be about the way you look, or anything like that. He's probably just wishy-washy...or he has low self esteem himself and is worried he won't measure up for you. In either case, that's not someone you want to be in a relationship with.
Well I don't think you should just take this one example and turn it into a whole "dating sucks" mentality. I know that you are cautious, guarded, and don't normally date BUT maybe this was a little lesson to try to get you to open yourself up to the possibility a little more. There's nothing wrong with going out with someone once in awhile and having a good time. Don't make it into such a big deal and make it turn you off to the entire thing.
Let your guard down a little
You really have no idea what the story there is, so just let it go.
I don't chat too much before meeting. Its an investment of my time that I'm just not willing to give to someone I'm not interested in, and I really need an in-person meeting to guage that.
I totally agree! I meant to mention this in my earlier post.