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If your 16 y/o got knocked up...
I watch 16 & Pregnant even though all it does is irritate me. I don't get why boyfriends/baby-daddies aren't allowed in the house that the baby will be living in (the mother's/16 year old girl's). I totally understand parents hating their daughter's boyfriend. I've had some real gems myself and my parents made it known. However, like it or not, that is the father of your granddaughter/grandson. I believe boundaries are still necessary for a 16 year old but I think I would be okay with the father sleeping in a guest bedroom in order to help out. Given the rate of involvement of most 16 year old dads, why not try to support their involvement? Why would you contribute to your granddaughter/grandson not having an active father in their life?
If the father were my son, I'd also kick in the asss, make him get a job, and hold him responsible for being involved in the child's life. Of course, that's just me.
What are your thoughts?
Photo bomb, yeah!
Re: If your 16 y/o got knocked up...
My thoughts exactly.
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I agree that I wouldn't let them sleep together. I would also have some serious discussions about birth control. Unfortunately I know all too many cases of people that just can't seem to figure out birth control. The most recent one was one I heard today. 18 y/o got pregnant, married the dad, they're having problems, heading towards divorce, and less than a year after the first baby she's pregnant again. She said she didn't know you have to take the pill everyday.
::headdesk::
Photo bomb, yeah!
Well, I'm sure if they really want to do it- it will happen. However, it does make it harder to accomplish when your parents are circling you like vultures at all time, you have a crying baby and your baby daddy isn't allowed in your bed.
I feel like allowing their boyfriend move in and letting them sleep together is somehow encouraging the behavior that caused the unexpected pregnancy in the first place.
67/200
I feel so fortunate that Virginia is awesome and you can get BC without your parents permission. I'm also grateful that our sex ed classes taught us about proper BC usage instead of that abstinence only bullshit.
Otherwise I'm positive I would have been knocked up at 16.
67/200
I loved that she wouldn't let them have the crib that HE bought.
Photo bomb, yeah!
This dad actually ended up disappointing me. I thought he'd be more involved. At the same time I'd hate going over to a house where I was previously unwelcome because I was white. A mob of brothers running after him is not conducive to working things out either.
Photo bomb, yeah!
No, you definitely don't need a bedroom to have sex. You don't need a kitchen to cook but it's sure as heck easier than building a fire in the woods.
He started out so promising and then crashed and burned! It's almost hard to believe that he supported her so well through her pregnancy and then literally the first day out of the hospital he dropped the ball.
Photo bomb, yeah!
Rule #1: Never wake a sleeping baby.
Photo bomb, yeah!
I didn't see this week's, but last week's made me want to put my fist through a sliding glass door. I'm sorry, but I don't get it when the father says over and over that he doesn't think they can do it, and he doesn't know if he can be committed enough and he thinks adoption is the better and more logical idea (and he was so right) and then the girl keeps the baby (which is her choice, not knocking that) and then turns around and is sooo pissed that the dad doesn't want to be involved. Well, no shiit Sherlock. He told you that. Don't yell at him that all he's going to be is a check in the mail when that's what he told you he would be. Leopards don't change their spots, especially when they tell you up front that they have no intention of doing so.
Oh, last week's was so frustrating. I will say that if I ever have a 16 year old daughter who gets pregnant, we will have a very serious discussion about options. Very very serious. I'd like to think that I'll be a mom who she could come to when she wanted to go on the Pill so that we could talk and I could make sure that she knew how to take it. I'll probably never be the jar of condoms on the side table mom, but I hope that my kids can be a little open with me about it. I would think that if my hypothetical daughter decided not only the carry to term but also to keep the baby then I would try to let her and the father work it out. I would be helpful, but also try to let them figure a lot out on their own.
I don't watch this show, but my parents early on told me that if I got pregnant, I'd be on my own, raising that child. They were done having kids.
It was enough to make sure I didn't have sex in high school. I don't think they would have kicked me out in actuality, but I got that it was serious.
Also, my nerd self wasn't a threat. Maybe it would have been different if I had a serious boyfriend.
I did have boyfriends that wanted to have sex, so nerdery isn't a barrier, but I don't think my parents acknowledged that.
This.
I don't watch the show so I can't comment on that, but H loves to say that he only wants to have boys because then he doesn't have to worry about them getting pregnant. It makes me want to climb the wall every time he says it. He thinks it's funny, but just because you don't gestate or birth the baby doesn't mean you're not responsible for 50% of the work.
Yeeaaaah, if my daughter got pregnant, I'd make sure she got medical attention, but if she decided she was old enough and mature enough to raise a baby, she wouldn't be living in my house either. By having kids, I am agreeing to raise and provide for them, not their puppy love SOs and their offspring.
*I didn't watch the show.
I would maybe let the guy stay over on occasion, in an extra bedroom, but I would not let him live with us. Maybe if the boy's parents kicked him out and he were homeless or something.
I would do everything I could to encourage positive co-parenting, but I would draw the line at living together. I would also discourage getting married just for the sake of the baby, too.
My cousin had a baby at like 18, and her and the dad co-parented without living together. They had shared custody, and while it wasnt ideal (what in the situation of being a teen parent is ideal?) they worked it out just fine. They ended up getting married when their son was just over a year old, and they didnt live together first either.
I changed my name
ITA with all of this.
Eh, I think he deserved a little scare after the way he'd been acting. It's not like he was going to stick around and talk it out after telling them all to F off anyway. I'm sure he'll use it to his martyr advantage though.
Did they talk about school at all? The other stories focus on how hard it is to go to school and whether or not they had to drop out. I didn't hear that at all in this episode.
I was so pissed by the episode where the girl worked a lot but the spoiled baby daddy didn't work and his parents didn't make him b/c he wouldn't be able to focus on school if he was working. Um, what!? If he's old enough to have a baby, he's old enough to work to pay for it AND go to school. Ridiculous.
At the end of the episode she said she was dropping out and her friend gave her a mini-soap box speech. She should listen to her and stay in school.
And I totally agree with the last part. My jaw was on the floor through the whole episode. I'm pretty sure this show just reinforces the need to not be shy around my future kids in regards to talking about sex. Granted the whole nursing gig made it a lot easier for me to talk about anything related to the body. I figure if I can talk to my little brother about birth control and sex (with him having a horrified expression throughout it all) then I can conquer anything, right? lol
Photo bomb, yeah!
Yes! And kudos to you for talking to him.
I actually did see this episode. (My sister follows the show and I watched it with her after her surgery two weeks ago.) At first I side-eyed that mom too, but then they made it sound like she was offering to pay for most of the stuff herself to make up for the fact that her son wasn't working.
It's not necessarily that path I'd choose if it were my son, but if she's going to shoulder his portion of the costs for the baby so he can focus on school, I think that's a legit choice.