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Another funeral - white shirt???
I'm breastfeeding so I can't wear a dress and any shirts I wear need to be somewhat easy access.
I have a white short sleeve button up shirt with a long sleeve black cardigan and dark grey pants or I have a grey pencil skirt.
For shoes I do have a pair of nude pumps but don't feel like nude and grey pants go well (in my mind it doesn't maybe I'm wrong?). I have a pair of black flats, and I have a pair of black heels but they are patent and I'm not sure how I feel about patent at a funeral? I have a pair of black pants but would rather not wear them because I don't think I like how they fit. Besdies I feel like matching a black cardigan to black pants is difficult although the cardigan has only been washed once so it is still very fresh and not at all faded.
And is it inappropriate to wear pearls to a funeral? I have a pearl set - necklace, earrings, bracelet, and I would like to wear it but not sure if that is pearl overload? Should I stick to say the earrings and bracelet? I feel like pearls are very weddingy but I also feel they are classic so ???
I know people will say "nobody will care what you are wearing" but these people do and they are judgey and it just sucks so I want to look classic and put together. Thanks for your time.
Re: Another funeral - white shirt???
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I think a white shirt with the other options you described would be absolutely appropriate. funeral clothing doesn't have to be all black, it just needs to be respectful. my best friend wore purple to her late husband's funeral, and she was the widow! when my great-grandmother died, I was the only female member of the family wearing mostly black, and even then I added green accessories.
especially with nursing, your clothing options are limited. I highly doubt anyone will be side-eyeing your with your outfit choice and if they do, then they are stuck in the past when it comes to clothing rules.
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They are very traditional Catholic family and H and I both really dislike being around them because we are not Catholic and are the only ones that did not get married in a Catholic church. Because of this, we are scrutinized constantly. It is dumb I agree, but nothing I can do about it. So it isn't so much about clothing rules to them - it's just that we can do no right regardless of the situation.
Nursing does limit my options because even if I were to pump, a dress would still certainly not be an option. I don't have a lot of jewelry so I wouldn't have many options to put in color, plus with DS starting to grab anything and everything I have been shying away from necklaces.
if this is the case, then I say eff 'em. I can't stand judgey people and if you truly can do nothing right, then why bother? that's THEIR problem, not yours.
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This, all the options sound good, you can't go wrong.
Just wondering though, couldn't you wear a dress if it's a V-neck where you can pull it down to BF?
I don't have a dress that this would work and be funeral appropriate. And sometimes when you pull down the neck will get stretched, etc. and if it is easy/comfortable to pull down, you likely have too much cleavage - at least that's my experience.
Going to wear the earrings and bracelet and no necklace
Sucks the family is like this but oh well. Until h wants t put an end to it then there is not much I can do. It is up to him since it is his family. Regardless I do not want to feel any more self-concious than I already do. Sucks to feel judged for something that we know is not a bad choice! oh well.
Thanks for the input tho everyone!