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I am on a train to hell

Ok that is a little dramatic, lol.  

I don't know if anyone remembers, but I shared a story about my BFF cutting me out    Of her life with no explanation. She won't tell anyone why she hates me. She was one of my BMs. She even dropped out of grad school because she couldn't bear the thought of having to spend time with me. 

 

Well it's been two years since she cut me out. Its been almost three since we've seen each other. I'm on e was to our mutual bffs Bach party. There are only 6 of us, and the bride and former friend are the only people i know. This could really suck. At least I planned it so I'm arriving by train at e same time as former friends plane, so we can get e awkwardness out of the way before the bride arrives. I don't want this to ruin her weekend.

 

 

 

Uggggg 

Re: I am on a train to hell

  • Oh, I thought this had already happened.  I remember you talking about seeing her again, but I thought that was awhile ago.  I actually was wondering a couple of months ago how that went.

     

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • That sounds awkward. I hope that you are still able to have fun. Nobody has a clue as to why she doesn't like you? Do they also find it strange that she has cut you off?
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    That sounds awkward. I hope that you are still able to have fun. Nobody has a clue as to why she doesn't like you? Do they also find it strange that she has cut you off?

     

     

    No one knows and they find it strange. One of our mutal friends actually tried to get her into counseling. She had other erratic behaviors at the some time and has a history of mental illness in her family. It led to a lot of rocky relationships in our bigger circle. Some people cut her out because they were upset even though I told people not to. It's been a mess. I'm not mad, just sad, really. 

  • The title of this post sounds like the premise for a Nicholas Cage movie.

     All kidding aside, that really sucks. The possible mental issues probably have everything to do with why she cut you out. I've seen people with untreated mental problems cut formerly close friends out completely after vilifying them for a multitude of reasons, most of them flabbergasting to the "offending" parties. 

    Significant drinking might be your friend this weekend.  

    I am serious...and don't call me Shirley.
  • Don't think about how miserable you will be. Think about how miserable she will be and revel in it! Whatabitch.
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  • She doen't like you?? Her problem, not your's.  It is a wedding - celebrate their joy!
  • I had a similar but kind of not problem. Bff from mid to high school. Issue soph year of college, and it was so awkward to see each other. Turns out she felt so guilty she didn't want to talk to me which I in turn thought she hated me. I ended up being a bridesmaid a few years later bc we finally opened up about it. I know your situation is prob different, but our biggest issue was lack of communication and worrying about an awkward time. So open up if possible.
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  • I'm sorry, that just sounds crappy.  I can't think of anything to say other than I hope whatever she's got going on in her head she sucks it up for the party so there's as little crap as possible and it's about the bride.  GL.

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    I'm sorry. I hope it ends up being ok. A college friend and I had a falling out after we graduated. I was in her wedding, which was disastrous. She sent me 2 letters detailing why she hated me. We hadn't talked for years and then I randomly ran into her at a political rally. It ended up being really pleasant, which shocked me. We had both gotten past the issues we had and we never discussed the breakup. I hope that happens for you too! Otherwise.... well, it should be interesting at least ; )
  • We need an update this morning :)

    Hope it went well. 

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