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The guy I was dating at work cheated on me with my boss.
I just found out after dating this guy from work that he cheated on me with my boss. I also found out that he has been seeing other women and suddenly had moved away from the city. It all started around November of 2011. I was currently working as a front end supervisor at a craft store and just graduated from college with an Associates Degree in Business admin. in Management and now going for my Bachelors Degree. They had just hired some seasonal people to work in the store for the holiday season. At the time when I first met him he seemed to get along with everyone. He was really good looking, buff, and had a funny personality. Im from the city(Boston) so at night I would take the train home. He is originally from Plymouth but was living in East Boston at the time. He seemed very genuine and was very open about talking about his future and what he wanted to do with his life( I'm 4 years older than him). So of course I believed him. We would ride home together depending on what my schedule would be at work. In our free time we would go and meet for coffee, go to a movie and just hang out and chat. Then around late November he started talking to me about his past that he's been in trouble with the law and had some drug charges against him so I wanted to support him by going with him to court. His court date was in December. So I went and found out tht he had been violating his probation, what's worse I found out that he was living in a sober house. So I thought nothing of it and we continued to see one another. Right around New Years eve we were supposed to go out but I ended up being sick and couldn't go out so I had sent him a text. He never replied back which was not like him because we would always talk to one another and text each other all the time. Fast forwarding to mid January my birthday was on the 13th and was going to NYC for my birthday. My friend at work told me that this guy and my boss were seeing each other and that rumors had surfaced about us. So with the rumors going around I couldn't handle it anymore and quit my job. Once I found out about them I confronted him about it and he said they were only friends so once again I believed him. So after I get back from NYC he started texting me/calling me only every two weeks and every time he would come over he would have to hurry and leave. We then started less and less spending time with each other and I just figured he was busy. Now it's February and I noticed only that he would come around if I was home/ in my room and that he no longer wanted me to walk with him or be seen with him. I thought that's strange. It got even worse. When I had kept trying to get in contact with him(it took him three weeks to respond) I finally got a text from him saying that he quit his job, had moved and was taking care of a sick relative in Wareham. I asked him if he was coming back to the city and he told me that he didn't know if he was or not comming back and that things were going to be crazy for a while. After that I didn't hear from him. Now it's March and I found out that my boss had transferred to another store. I couldn't take it anymore and called her to really see if they were seeing one another. When I confronted her about it she said yes Jacqui we are in a relationship I almost died! I had asked her if they had ever slept with one another and she said not yet but it was coming up soon. I said whatever you do don't. I've been sleeping with him, it was 6 times and it was unprotected. All my friend(boss) did was cry I told her I was sorry. She said its funny though your mentioning this now because I would have never transferred and that there were so many stories that I have to end it. I said when was the last time you heard from him she told me three weeks and that she knew something was going on with other women and she helped him move to Wareham. We both agreed not to text him/call him unless he did first. It was the St. Patrick's day parade in southie and I get a text. It was from him. So I met him down at the beach. I confronted him about what my friend and I had talked about and all he did was act like he didn't care about her or my feelings and he wasn't in a relationship with either of us. Then he goes onto say that he ran into an ex of his and that she was bad news and that I have been the only girl he's been sleeping with, that he likes me more than my friend and was planning on moving back to the city. So we end up going back to my place and we sleep together. The next day we talk on the phone. It's been 1 month and 2 weeks since I've heard from him and now my friend thinks I betrayed her. I also found out that this guy never graduated high school, had been comitting crimes since he was 17, his record goes all the way back to 2005. He was charged with larceny, breaking and entering, drug possession, had a suspended license, and is now violating his probation once again. I even checked his Facebook page and saw that he friended 14 other girls. My friends keep telling me to move on. This cost me my job and my friends hip.
Re: The guy I was dating at work cheated on me with my boss.
What the fcuk is wrong with you? He clearly lied and cheated, and you knew he was a criminal and a big fcuking loser in general, and yet you STILL slept with him again? And what were you doing having unprotected sex with this moron in the first place?
I don't know what your question is here. If it's about what you should do, you should run as far away as you can from this guy, and start making smarter life decisions. Holy sh*t.
So which one are you?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQoTlVgmPK8
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
I love you more than words can say. Would humping you help?
haha thank you.
I was really confused reading this and kept going back to see if I missed the part where your friend hurt her hip.
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
As a matter of fact it would, Wendy. It would.
I just died.
"If you wanna win then you shoulda put a hat on it. Don't be mad when you see a knit cap won it. If you wanna win then you shoulda put a hat on it."- Fenton
Sorry, and I mean this in the nicest possible way but your a idiot, for the following reasons:
1. You knew him a month when he told you about his past and decided you were going to go support him at his court hearing...WTF? What the hell for? You didnt know the guy?
2. You found out he was violating probation and "thought nothing of it". Another, giant WTF.
3. You took his word after hearing rumors he was cheating.
4. You were surprised to find out he was cheating..after practically having it thrown in your face.
5. You slept with him, again. And probably didnt use protection. Again.
I cant even go on, you have to be the dumbest girl Ive ever encountered.
If this is the kind you say yes to, I can't imagine the kind of guy you turn down for dates and sex.
fenton and saraandmichael-
water just came out my nose- you guys kill me
Hahaha! This!
I'm in camp You Can't Cheat on a Booty Call.
For real. He was tagging you, honey. It wasn't a relationship. YWIA!
Click me, click me!
And don't get your penis/bagina where you get your paycheck..really has little to do with the OP, it's just good sound advice like Sue_sue just gave
Get tested.
No, really, I mean it.
LMFAO.
I read this and had to roll back to the top of the page to see if I had mistakenly gotten on the "Idiot Women" message board by mistake.
You have made so many bad decisions that it would be pointless to attempt to assist you.
Obviously common sense is something you have never had, heard of or practiced.
Frankly, you'll be lucky if this guy doesn't cost your life/sexual health, never mind your job.
I completely agree with KimNSandy.
I just assumed he stole it.
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